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There is a danger to being obsessed with people.  And my goodness, I feel such a strong stirring in my heart to write this.  I am not sure who it is for, or meant to address, but I will write obedient, as the Holy Spirit prompts me. 

Again, I do not know who this is meant for.  All my friends, and acquaintances, seem to have a healthy grasp on this.  But for whoever it is meant for, I pray you take it to heart.  

What makes someone obsessed over someone else?  Hmmm.  Well I want to list a few scenarios, and then add the Lords thoughts through my thoughts to it.

This could be a spoken obsession, or an obsession, in the mind.  

But if it is in the mind, it is part of the spirit.  And just a thought but is the spirit from God, or the devil, in its contribution to what you think?  You need to see that.

When it is a spoken obsession, it could be because you admire someone and have told them that.  It could be that they have rejected you, and so you feel wounded.  It could be from an old lover, a friend, or even an enemy.  So you think about it, but you think and think, and think about it.  Your mind is constantly on that person, and it is unhealthy.    

You admire them so greatly, or may even hate them so much in an unhealthy way you could be in danger of “obsessing” to the point, that you cannot handle rejection.  Or wanting even to reject them.  And you could do something you regret.  

You need to see it now.    

It could be from someone you know, or someone you see like on television, etc.  So you may even stalk them or try to get their attention etc.

When it is an obsession in the mind, you constantly think of them, even though they do not know, and your behavior changes.  Where you may try to get their attention even though you do not exist to them, you want to be seen, you want to compete, you want to let them know, you are there.  

You want their attention as much as you have given “thought” to them.  

Friend, do you sense how unhealthy this is?  Maybe you think about someone constantly, and they could care less?  

I can only relate this to my own experiences, and I want to share something personal, so maybe it can help someone.  

But years ago, I met a man.  A very handsome man, and I fell so in love with this man.  He never courted me, he frankly was not interested, yet, I began this “obsession” and would think of him, and dream of him, and told him, I loved him.  I told him, no one else could love him like I could.  

Which at that time, I thought was true.  But he did not care, and in fact, he rejected me, and hurt me, so bad, I thought I would die.  

I did not, praise God.  

You see, I met my husband, and I have had a very fruitful marriage.  A holy marriage, where we made Christ first, and where His spirit, has brought us together in holy matrimony.

Which is why even here, if I could briefly put it in words, it is unhealthy to have sex with someone, and link on to that spiritual bondage, in a soul tie.  Because it is sin.  

Being obsessed with other people is sin, in Gods eyes.  They become an idol.  And well if you know God, you know He is a jealous God, and this is just one more principle to consider in pleasing Him, and having a healthy spirit.  

Is your obsession, turning that person into an idol?  Hmmm.    

I had put so much energy into this person, for such a long time, it just was not healthy for myself.  But I finally saw, that it was never going to happen, and I let go.  

That was the healthiest thing I could do for myself.  I have been careful since then not to give a lot of attention to anyone in the sense, where I could be in a position to be rejected, or to obsess with them, and have unhealthy expectations.  

You know what?  Sometimes we think people are the prize.  But really if we know who we were in Christ and what we can do, with Christ as the prize, we are in heritage of our Lord through Christ, as sons and daughters of our Lord, with a holy heritage.  

We are royalty in Christ, and royalty does not have to beg for people to love us, or where we have to obsess about them.  Don’t give yourself away.  You are worth more then you know.

Don’t try and manipulate a situation with your obsession.  Did you know that is like witchcraft in the eyes of God?     

Do you see where I am going with this?  Friends, all I know, that God is a jealous God, and if we want to be healthy in our own spirits, we have to learn to give Him all of our attention in the sense, that we do not lose our “balance” in this.  

This is why probably some people keep going back to the same type of people, in relationships.  Because this is the pattern they have established, not knowing the difference.  Oh but with Christ, what a beautiful difference and heritage we can have.  This is why obedience to God, can lead to other blessings, yes including love, but ensuring our salvation first.    

Where we find a good place yes to love people, but where we reserve a place first for Christ, and then yes for ourselves.  Not giving into unhealthy obsessions, where first of all people who see that, can use that to hurt you.  Where they would take advantage of you.  Use you.  Nobody wants to be used, and not even God.  Like I said, He is not an ATM machine.  

We have to find respect for our own self, to yes love, but not to obsess, or to become someone’s door mat, or find we are being rejected by people.  If they have rejected you, respect that, and let it go.

And here is a thought, obsessing with jealousy?  Don’t do that.  You are worth more then you think.  And God is jealous for you.    

Seriously, it goes back to when you are young, and trying to make friends for example.  I learned the harder I tried to be friends sometimes with people, it turned them off.  

No one likes to be intruded on, by someones advances, and when you like people, and want to be friends, it should be mutual.  Being a pest etc.  This is why obsessing, especially in the mind with people, and just creating thoughts about them is not healthy as well.  For there is no foundation in the friendship.  

So I reserve to give myself some dignity, in not over doing it, in my efforts.   

Friend, again, I do not know who you are, but whatever anyone has done, or not done, you need to let it go.  You need to quit thinking about that  person, obsessing about them, or even following them, on social media, or where ever.  

Let the obsession go, you may be lonely.  God understands this, but you need to see the direction of your obsession, and give it to God to help you let go.  He can fill that void.  That place in your heart that you are spending so much time belongs to God.  And only God.  

I hope this helps you, whoever you are.  Let go and give it to God, be free from obsession. People cannot fill that only God can.   

For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would. But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law. Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.

Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another. (Galatians 5:17-24, 26 KJV)  

I sense Obsessing about others is in this list.  Where the spirit struggles with the flesh. Let it go, give it to Christ.  Share this link if you think it could help someone.   


Blessings, and love, Elena Ramirez  


22 thoughts on “THE DANGEROUS SPIRIT OF BEING OBSESSED WITH PEOPLE ~ By Christian author Elena Ramirez

  1. Reblogged this on Beside the Still Waters and commented:
    Social Sites are a great way to stay in touch with near and dear, friends and families. But it also can’t be denied that the same platforms are used (mostly) to be updated about people that are not of any good part in our life.

    That teenage boyfriend, that crush at church to whom you never existed, that colleague who left you broken and battered beyond recovery…Most of us have a past buried, a flame sniffed off.. And given the least of chance, the dead corpses can come tumbling over, that flame can be rekindled to an untamed fire.

    The whole psychology can be named as ‘obsession with people’.

    It is painful. It is dangerous. It is Sin.

    Christian Author and my favorite blogger ELENA RAMIREZ speaks on this sin that has even Christians under its strong clutches.

    • For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry. Because thou hast rejected the word of the Lord, he hath also rejected thee from being king. (1 Samuel 15:23 KJV)

      When someone tries to manipulate a situation, this is a form of rebellion. They are trying to change the situation, they are trying to control the outcome. This is like witchcraft.

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  3. I was praying today, for God to help me stop with my obsession, cause I know I am obsessed – I tried casting it out today in Jesus name. I pray He would enable me to overcome this. Felt like this was exactly what I needed to read today. It felt like it was specifically for me. Thank you.

    • I am so glad, that you were inspired by my writings. When I see comments like yours, I know that God is using me. With that said, be comforted. The enemy tries to trap us all with distractions, and with tactics to try and make us lose our way. But never forget Christ is that way, just keep your eyes on Him. I tell myself that as well. You see, again, we can lose our way, but if we know the difference, and bring it to Christ in obedience, He will make a way. You are in my prayers. Take care, and God bless. If I can help further in prayer, let me know. Blessings, and Happy New Year, I pray your new year will bring much joy. Elena

      • Hi Elena, it’s been a year apparently, since our last comment exchange. Please pray for me (my name is Julia). I’m a 25 year old who has developed feelings for a person since 2016 who isn’t Christian, but we are sort of good friends. Anyway, I’m very much accountable with my small group at church regarding my struggle of liking this person. However, to this day, I seem to be embarrassingly still obsess over this guy behind the curtains and I feel like I’m going in the extremes (at least especially in the digital age). Please pray for me that I would stop wanting to figure out how he feels about me, or his interactions with other people (specifically women), or just figuring him out as a person.

        The person and I talk often, I think this is rooted in a fear of rejection or just really wanting for things to “work” between us – even if we’re really just platonic friends. I am praying for his salvation above all, and I don’t think he has much to do with my “obsessive tendencies” as I tend to act the same way when I like a person, but this one hasn’t gone away. I had my on and off moments where I stop and think I’ve already overcome this, but now it’s back with a vengeance.

        I’m fasting now and praying really hard regarding this specific struggle as i feel like it’s worsening. I feel very not like my self, and I’m sure it’s not glorifying God in any way.

        I think about him (and reasons why he probably doesnt like me AND never will) a lot. And the spirit and the flesh is waging war in my mind as well as my actions. And I know God should always be the center of everything but it’s been difficult.

        Even now I’m haunted by dreams of him rejecting me or some weird scenario of how things would turn out if we ended up together.

        Anyway, I’m self-aware of how wrong this is…please pray with me…and if you have any advice regarding this. I hate it so much but my brain wont stop and this affects the things I do as well….. I don’t know what spirit it is and the root.

        Thank you!

      • You need to take authority in the name of Jesus, and just rebuke it. Its tormenting you, and you don’t need that. So, I recommend, always repent to God. Ask Him to take that desire, that obsession away, and just rebuke it. You have to see the error of it, so it does not control you, or torment you. I am so sad, you are experiencing this, and I do understand. Because sometimes, we carry hurt, we don’t know how to release it, or let it go. But if you take the steps to repent, and rebuke that, claim scriptures, and bring it to the obedience of Christ, you can be free. I will pray for you.

  4. Hi Elena

    Your post has encouraged me. I’ve done everything to get free from obsessing over someone I met 5 years ago. I tried breaking the soul ties and fasted to be free of thoughts of him. I realise that it’s not him I’m obsessing over but rather how he made me feel. I also have experienced with the infatuation a feeling of being completely out of control in dealing with these thoughts that take over who I am. I do not want it to continue and your blog has helped me to see how allowing this unhealthy obsession to continue is an act of rebellion and a sin. I’ve made my feelings an idol, I’ve allowed my flesh to be fed with continuing to check his Twitter feed and I’ve made him or the feelings I get from obsessing an idol and I repent. This isn’t who I want to be, I know it’s rooted I being rejected as a child, my dad left when I was 18 months old, my mum suffered PND and my 5 year old brother cared for me. And so we must not just look at the symptoms buy what is causing them. My root cause is rejection and in a way it’s all I’ve known so I continue to feed that by wanting a man who has rejected me and I almost feel it’s what I know.
    God knows my plight to be free and I know he will deliver me because I do not want to live like this another day. He knows my heart and is the only one who can heal me and set me free. I have to do my part and I will. I would appreciate your prayers as I seek complete healing and freedom. Thank you for writing what you have its really blessed me. x

    • Happy New Year Cindy, yes I will pray for you. And thank you for sharing your heart with me in this matter. Sometimes its hard for us to do that, but when we do, and we let God in, and give Him, our cares, our worries, our sorrows, and yes our “obsessions” He can change things. Its always a process, from His glory to another glory, and just hold on. Don’t give up. I understand what you say about rejection. But remember you are the head, and not the tail. You are more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus. He is the way, the truth, and life. And may you have it more abundantly, because He will show you from moment to moment, how to live. He does for me. I just have to trust Him, as well, and He makes a way. God bless your new year, my friend, in Christ, and thanks for subscribing to my posts, here. Blessings from Father, to you and yours this new year of 2018. ❤

  5. Hello Helena,

    Thank you for being sesnsitive to the Lord’s leading you to write this. I feel like you were writing to me! I am struggling with obsession and infatuation. I know it is idolatry, but I can’t seem to forget this person.

    I was wondering, how do I tell the difference between obsession and a healthy prompting from the Holy Spirit to pray for a person? I am trying to just “forget” a person, but it doesn’t work.

    Thank you.

    • Hello Elizabeth, I do understand this, and I think we all can be challenged with something like this. For even different reasons. When you think of the person, reject the notion, to do so, bring it to the obedience of Christ, and there bless them, with good thoughts, or memories, and go on. Thats the only advice I could give. You have to keep seeing it though, be careful that hate, or anger, or jealousy, does not get in the thought, but repent, to God, and ask Him to help you. He will. And I will pray for you as well Elizabeth. Take care, and just know, that you will never forget, but you will learn from it. And it will help you to help others as well. Blessings, and thanks for writing….

  6. I just prayed about this and seeing this pattern in my life, I needed this. Thank you for listening to God and helping planting the seed in my life. Thus seed needs to grow in my life and I am asking God to grow it It in my life, in Jesus name amen

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