Please Note: I had published this, but deleted it. I felt the Lord telling me to remove it but now, I am republishing it. I have been dealing with things lately, that seem so overwhelming. But I am trusting God. I have not been making good decisions, in some ways. With people, or with trust issues. God knows. But I am dealing with things spiritually, and it all seems too much for me. But I am seeking God. This, is something I hope will help someone. This I write as an outlet. Again its not meant to hurt anybody if they read it. I would never want to do that. But some things in the spiritual realm cannot be reasoned, or understood. They need Gods attention. This is why I serve Him. Because I cannot always do things, but He can.
Instructions on how to deal with the spirit of jealousy. Why do I say one needs instructions on this matter? Because God dealt with it. And He is always our example. Recently, and I will not go into details, I witnessed the spirit of jealousy. And I knew I had to pray. I became silent. I knew it was wrong, but I did not know how to deal with it. And I prayed fervently for guidance, but also for this person. God answered me quickly. With instruction and His counsel. Because I prayed in love. Because I submitted to God, resisted the devil.
SUBMIT YOURSELVES THEREFORE TO GOD. RESIST THE DEVIL, AND HE WILL FLEE FROM YOU. JAMES 4:7 KJV.
I believe this is the instruction and counsel God gave me, so I am sharing it here.
There Are Two Different Kinds Of Jealousy:
A good kind, that comes from God. And an evil kind that comes from the devil:
HOW ART HOU FALLEN FROM HEAVEN, O lucifer, SON OF THE MORNING! HOW ART THOU CUT DOWN TO THE GROUND, WHICH DIDST WEAKEN THE NATIONS! FOR THOU HAST SAID IN THINE HEART, I WILL ASCENT INTO HEAVEN, I WILL EXALT MY THRONE ABOVE THE STARS OF GOD: I WILL SIT ALSO UPON THE MOUNT OF THE CONGREGATION, IN THE SIDES OF THE NORTH. I WILL ASCEND ABOVE THE HEIGHTS OF THE CLOUDS; I WILL BE LIKE THE MOST HIGH. YET THOU SHALT BE BROUGHT DOWN TO HELL, TO THE SIDES OF THE PIT. ISAIAH 14:12-15 King James.
So, do you, see the devils jealousy concerning God in this?
The good kind of jealousy, comes from God in the sense, that He is very jealous, when it comes to anything, or anybody, trying to steal His glory, or in protecting His people.
FOR THE LORD THY GOD IS A CONSUMING FIRE, EVEN A JEALOUS GOD. DEUTERONOMY 4:24 King James.
He is fierce, when dealing with this, because He dealt with it, when it came to the devil. In the beginning. He dealt with it, and kicked out the devil, from heaven, because He would not allow any kind of strife, that stemmed from jealousy, in His Kingdom.
And because I know God, and I know His personality in this matter, I understand, why He would not allow that kind of jealousy in His Kingdom, because it does take away His glory.
So if he does not allow it, neither should we….
GOD IS JEALOUS, AND THE LORD REVENGETH; THE LORD REVENGETH AND IS FURIOUS; THE LORD WILL TAKE VENGEANCE ON HIS ADVERSARIES, AND HE RESERVETH WRATH FOR HIS ENEMIES. NAHUM 1:2 KJV.
The bad kind of jealousy, from the devil, tries to puff itself up. It can become pride. It tries to steal Gods glory. It tries to have what God has, by using tactics, that are not of love. It tries to manipulate, and that is another sign. Because it tries to control. Thats not of God.
It does try and take away His peace. The peace of God, because the jealousy will always rear up its ugly head like a snake. You cannot trust jealousy. It does deceive. It does make itself, a form of idolatry, and God will not allow that, because of His great love. Because He is love. But if you allow it, by not recognizing it, you are sinning.
If one studies the attributes of love. It does not puff itself up, love from God, it does not manipulate, it does not wish, bad, or hate anyone. It always forgives. It does not seek to control, or torment, or be a false witness etc. Lies etc. It is not counterfeit.
Love from God is not counterfeit, if the principles of God are applied. But one must see.
Jealousy, that is not of God, will do that. It opens doors, spiritually, that are not of God. So it must be dealt with. One might not even intend any ill, or evil, but because that spirit is allowed, it brings curses, that are not of God. It is a spiritual principle. Like what goes up, comes down. Well jealousy, brings curses. The hedge of protection, in pleading the blood of Jesus, and by departing from that, will close those doors to curses.
THE LORD WILL NOT SPARE HIM, BUT THEN THE ANGER OF THE LORD AND HIS JEALOUSY SHALL SMOKE AGAINST THAT MAN, AND ALL THE CURSES THAT ARE WRITTEN IN THIS BOOK SHALL LIE UPON HIM, AND THE LORD SHALL BLOT OUT HIS NAME FROM UNDER HEAVEN. DEUTERONOMY 29:20 KJV.
Please note, from this verse, salvation can be lost. The name blotted out of the Book of Life.
One has to look at the perspective, of whether or not they have the jealousy. Or if they are the object of the jealousy. And deal with it.
How does one deal with it? First of all pray. Seek Gods wisdom, in this matter. But read on, and receive more understanding.
So, let us look at it first from the perspective of the person, who has the jealousy.
The jealousy, will make someone take their eyes off of God, and His promises. It is a strange form of idolatry. They may not even realize it, but it is a distraction. It is making them, look at the person, as a source of their problem. They may not mean to do that. Because they may love that person. But, when they begin to compare their life, to that person, in their attributes, qualifications, things they possess, people in their lives, they will compare. Jealousy is evident.
They may see themselves in a very low light, where they diminish their own attributes, or they lose their own self esteem, because they are constantly looking at that person, and it makes them feel inadequate. They are looking at that person, and not realizing it, taking their eyes off of God. The devil will use that against them.
This is not of God. Again, I will repeat this is not of God!
They inadvertently, begin to see that person, in a negative light, and as much as they may love someone, they cannot help but compare, with jealousy.
This is not healthy for someone to do this, because the spiritual soul ties, blocks their own blessings. Blocks their own gifts. Blocks doors opening for them, because they are looking at someone, with jealousy, and not totally looking at God.
This I believe is one of the greatest sins, the devil could try to deceive someone in, because he does not want people to be fulfilled, or blessed. This is again, one of his characteristics, because he was jealous of God.
I think for the Christian, who does not recognize this spirit, of jealousy, is playing with their salvation. Not only are they blocking their own personal blessings. I think they could lose their salvation. After all, the devil was in heaven, and he got kicked out of heaven, because of jealousy.
When one sees, that, one should distance themselves from the object of jealousy, and run to God. Run to the throne of God. Don’t walk. Run! Repent. See the danger of it. Because it can again, open doors that are not of God. And one never wants to do that.
Doors cannot open from God, if this sin, of jealousy is evident. It will block, the blessings of God. It is sin. To be jealous.
Prayers will not be heard. He says iniquities separates us, so He will not hear. So you have to repent and depart from anything that will cause that jealousy.
BUT YOUR INIQUITIES HAVE SEPARATED BETWEEN YOU AND YOUR GOD, AND YOUR SINS, HAVE HID HIS FACE FROM YOU, THAT HE WILL NOT HEAR.
ISAIAH 59:2 KJV
You don’t have to be in someones life, to love them. And always love. Even if you love from a distance, with good thoughts. Prayers. Walk in love. This is how Christ said we would be known by, our love.
But if it is something, that is not dealt with, you have to see, love is the greatest sacrifice, to want the best for someone. So repent, and do what’s right.
Leaving someone alone, is a sacrifice….
As Christ did. See, He loved us so much, that He paid the penalty of our sins, so we could escape the legal penalty of sin. By giving His life, that was holy to stop the penalty of sin. Without Him, without His sacrifice, the enemy would have a victory, a legal right to attack, but you have your part in avoiding this sin, of jealousy, by recognizing it, departing from it, and submitting to God totally. Resisting the devil.
HE THAT COMMITTETH SIN IS OF THE DEVIL; FOR THE DEVIL SINNETH FROM THE BEGINNING. FOR THIS PURPOSE THE SON OF GOD WAS MANIFESTED, THAT HE MIGHT DESTROY THE WORKS OF THE DEVIL. I JOHN 3:8 KJV.
So, if you are the object of someones jealousy…
You have to see, that the best thing, one must do, on your part, is to distance themselves from that person. Because real love, does not want to make someone unhappy. Real love, prays for that person. Because if you really love, someone you don’t want to make someone miserable. You do not want to hurt them. By staying in a relationship, or friendship, that constantly makes someone reminded, that you have what they want.
Love does not torment people. To torment. For the sake of tormenting. That is pure evil. Love does not provide a way or set up a path, to make someone jealous. So you have to gain strength, and walk away.
I have seen jealousy in my own life. And it has grieved me. I have not always recognized it. On my part, or on others. But, God has given me discernment, and I do understand it. Now. I do understand, that if it is not dealt with, it can bring unhappiness, block blessings, bring curses, and it is not healthy.
But I have also learned, that if you love people. You are happy for them. You don’t compare your life to theirs. You don’t compete. You don’t try to make them unhappy, because you are unhappy. You don’t try and put a guilt trip on someone, because they are blessed.
One has to see themselves what they have done, to make their own unhappiness, and not make others a focal point of their own mistakes or sins.
You have to recognize who God is, and how He dealt with this, and you have to see, its not healthy spiritually.
When I was younger, perhaps, I was jealous of folks. It seemed it brought out the worse in me. To lower my self-esteem. To always compare. That was immaturity on my part. I grew out of it. Life taught me that. My own sins, have shown me the error of my ways. I still grieve because of my sins.
I did come to a place, though, where I realized in life, there will always be prettier, more blessed, more talented, more richer, more people, who have things and attributes, gifts, characteristics that I do not have. And I don’t have to have something that does not belong to me. By striving for it, by jealousy.
But that does not discount, who God has made me. I am blessed. In my own right. Because of His Righteousness.
I don’t have to compare myself to them, because I am actually happy, for people, now when they are blessed. I see the fruit of it. I have joy, for others. I don’t compare my life, to their life. Even in the body of Christ.
Especially, in the body of Christ. Because that is not allowed in Gods Kingdom. And so if you are jealous on earth, I think again, you are playing with your salvation.
So, I don’t go about, trying, to make them feel bad, for having something I don’t have. Or have. I recognize, life is a journey. And I always have to try, to be in that place where I can hear from God, and obey God. Because His ways, are the way, of truth, and life. John 14:6 King James.
I know we all have gifts and callings, that God has placed in our lives, but they cannot be fulfilled, if the sin, of jealousy is there. It will block the blessings. And if you love someone, truly someone, you have to let them go, if you see jealousy on your side, or on theirs. Because that is not love. That is not love that comes from God.
It does not mean, it is forever. It does not mean, it cannot be rectified. Or even final. Perhaps, the friendship, or relationship, can be healed or mended, by time, by letting God into the situation, totally, by repenting, and by loving enough to let someone be.
Acknowledging the sin. Being honest about it. Letting God bless you, because you are obedient.
By, literally setting them free. Like the saying goes;
“If you love someone, or something set them free. If they belong to you, they will return.”
If not, well it was not meant to be by God.
One will see, it was not the will of God. And folks, one needs to be mindful of that, by not trying to manipulate people or situations, just because you love, or want them in your life.
In that time, of separation, quietness, God can bless you. God can open the doors for you. But you have to let go of the sin of this, to receive the blessing.
Even here I received this instruction, because I had to be silent. I could not react to that situation, because I could have damaged it far more then what it was. I know myself. I have a sharp tongue. But because I love this person, and more than anything, I love God, I managed self-control, to pray. To be silent.
To know that jealousy is a green eyed monster, that is the devil.
AND THE GREAT DRAGON WAS CAST OUT, THAT OLD SERPENT, CALLED THE DEVIL, AND satan, WHICH DECEIVETH THE WHOLE WORLD: HE WAS CAST OUT INTO THE EARTH, AND HIS ANGELS WERE CAST OUT WITH HIM. REVELATION 12:9 King James.
By letting the person go, you are taking the first step. Because then you are totally submitting to God, by recognizing the sin of this, and asking Him to change it. The distraction of that person, is no longer there, and the healing can begin. For you, and that person.
If its crossed a line though, where there is abuse, verbal, or physical, though, one should forgive, but one cannot forget. And in any area of jealousy one should forgive. But….
It is hard to trust, anybody, when these lines have been crossed. Into personal space, or spiritual space.
When one apologizes, it should be, where, one is not reminded of that because forgiveness is there. One should not apologize and then repeat the offense. Because then its just lip service. But it should not be brought up again, to be used against a person.
So proceed or withdraw with caution. If one is truly using discernment from God, they will recognize the spirit of jealousy. It may take some time. It does not always manifest itself. But if it is there, it will reveal itself, sooner or later. Even in the strangest of conditions. I have seen it time, and time again.
If someone tells you, they are jealous. Of you, or who you are. Believe them. See, you cannot confuse, that for being happy for someone because it comes from a place of comparing. And that is not healthy spiritually, for either party.
SUFFER NOT THY MOUTH TO CAUSE THY FLESH TO SIN; NEITHER SAY THOU BEFORE THE ANGEL, THAT IT WAS AN ERROR: WHEREFORE SHOULD GOD BE ANGRY AT THY VOICE, AND DESTROY THE WORK OF THINE HANDS. ECCLESIASTES 5:6. KJV.
In this scripture I see, admitting the truth in this, not denying the jealousy, will be the beginning to set someone free.
Don’t ever take someones weakness, in matter like this, and use it. Against them. Don’t flaunt your attributes, or whatever it is, that person, is struggling with, and try to make them feel inadequate. Because they are jealous. I think God would and could punish someone, for trying to use that against them. Don’t play with these spiritual matters.
Fear God. I do.
Thats why I think one should depart from situations like that.
SO WILL I MAKE MY FURY TOWARD THEE TO REST, AND MY JEALOUSY SHALL DEPART FROM THEE, AND I WILL BE QUIET, AND WILL BE NO MORE ANGRY. EZEKIEL 16:42 KJV.
Just remember this, that kind of jealousy is not of God.
Any child of God, who wants God to bless them, or that person, they love, should depart. So the devil can depart. And pray, always constantly pray for someone. See the enemy, does come to kill, steal and destroy. Don’t give him a legal right to attack you, or someone else.
And because I recently seen this, and though, I love this person dearly, it has made me pray for this person, more fervently, because I love this person, and I would never want to make this person unhappy, or sorrowful, by comparing myself to this person, or this person, to compare herself to me. I want this person, happy, blessed, fulfilled, in Christ. And as much as it grieves me to let this person go, I will, so the enemy will not have any place in this matter.
It just is not healthy, for myself, as well, spiritually, to think my happiness would make them miserable, so I would rather, just walk away, and see if God can heal this. Because if I don’t… Every time, I would see this person, I would think is this person o.k. now, or am I still a thorn in this persons side? For this person to be jealous. I never want to be used by the enemy, to bring jealousy, or unhappiness to anyone. Thats not who I am. In Christ.
I know God always uses things I go through, to help others, and I hope it helps. This is why I write. I am just someone who can and will be obedient to God, to share truth. And truth, brings light.
This is my way of trying to heal my own heart. My own sadness. By writing about this. It is not meant to hurt anybody. Or to make someone feel bad. This is a deep rooted matter, that can hurt any of us. I am just trying to be brave enough, to express this so it can help others. And yes again, myself. For healing spiritually.
Get a King James bible. Look up scriptures on jealousy, understand Gods perspective in this, and let this be your guide. Understand how God saw jealousy, and be healed. Things can heal, but you always have your part.
Hope this helps someone. God bless you, always come from a place of repentance, and a turning away of any sin, so you can have Gods love rest on you.
So jealousy can depart.
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