STOP LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES ~ By Christian Author Elena Ramirez


Version 2If you don’t stop looking for love in all the wrong places, the end result of your life will be trashy….Strong words, but truth, please wake up!

I really feel such a strong desire to write about this.  And when I do, I know, its from God Almighty.  So, I pray, my experiences, this that, what I am about to share with you, helps you, to realize, God does not want you looking for love in all the wrong places, as well.

I am older now, my experiences, have taught me many things.  But I learned, and I learned the hard way, that one should:  

“STOP LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES.”

Please allow me to elaborate.  

Right now, I am not looking for love.  I have a wonderful husband, and son, for over 30 years, we have been married, content, and in love, and we have our son, and so I am not looking for a mate.  

But when I was single, when I was growing up, I made many mistakes and had terrible judgment in this area.  I looked for love in all the wrong places.

I had low self-esteem.  I grew up, with my mom, raising me.  I had a father, I knew who he was.  He was a good man.  But he and my mother, did not get along, and were divorced, when I was just a child. 

So, I did not have that father figure to guide me.  

I have written about this in some similar posts, as my secret to true love.  But, I truly believe this.  That many of us, can get so lonely, so desperate for companionship, acceptance, a need to fit in, with others, that we can look for love in all the wrong places.

And I am not just talking about intimacy, or finding love, but just even in relationships, with friends, groups, etc.  We can look for acceptance, and actually compromise, who we are, because we can get so desperate.  It will distort your judgment. That you can even look for it in alcohol, or drugs.  Don’t do that, it will just make the problem worse, so that you cannot have a clear head in these matters.  

And I will elaborate on that as well.

But I know this worked for me, and years ago, after trial and error, I realized I had to change my method, or my approach to finding love.  I wanted true love. I went to God.  

He told me I needed to repent for my sins.  He showed me what He did on that cross for me.  He counseled me.  You know, He is my greatest friend, counselor, therapist, and adviser.  Theres none like God.  He is not imaginary.  He is very real.  He helps me, and helped me then as well.  

I began searching for truth, from my King James Bible.  And anyone that knows me, knows, I do not recommend any other word. Because it is not changed, or corrupted, as scripture tells us not to do.

Anyway….I began to see His ways, are not our ways.  The way of the world.  

The way of the world looks at love, as something cheap.  Its not.  Love em, and leave em, take what you want, thats not holy, and thats what you get.  Something that is not precious, something that is used, and thats not how God intended it to be for us.  Because He did not create us to have “trashy” spirits.  

So when I saw this, that love is not free, in that regard.  I began praying for the right mate.  I determined, that if God brought me a mate, I would do things His way.  Not mine, or the way of the world.  I promised Him, I would do things His way, and I do try.  

When I met my husband, I laid out some rules.  Because I liked him. And I did see potential.  But I did not want to ruin it with sex, or short changing myself, to try and please someone.  Who might, just take pleasure, and then leave.  Anyway, like they say, why buy the cow, when you get the milk for free?  

So, I told this wonderful man, I met, I wanted to do things right.  The way of the Lord.  So, he listened, and that gave him, respect toward me. 

Well long story short, a few months later, he asked me to marry him.  We got married, by holy matrimony, and we are trying in the way of the Lord, to live happily ever after.  

Has it been easy? No not always, but we work at it, we cherish each other, and honor each other.  Because we honored God to wait.   Because we did wait, and we honored God, we have a supernatural bond, that cannot be broken.  

Now, because I am older, I want you to see, by my experiences, that you can have true love, but you can also see, by what I share, that you need to stop looking for love, in all the wrong places.

I am also talking about just fitting in.  Or having friends.  I know myself.  I am a pretty loyal person.  But I have not always had that returned to me.  Right now, I just have a couple of people, that I call friends, that I love, but people change, and I have seen that in my life.  So, I don’t always trust that.  People can come and go…..

And, I don’t rely on people, to fill a void for me.  That void, is only met, as I seek God.  As I pray, as I read my King James Bible, as I stay away from any kind of sin.

I don’t even rely on family.  But I am very grateful for my immediate family.  That I have now.  

But when I say that, I am talking about other family relations.  See, it was just me and mama.  Daddy passed away first, even though, he did not raise me, I knew him.  He provided what he could.  Mama raised me, but life was hard on her.  I had no brothers and sisters.  I don’t even have family on any side, that communicates with me, besides an aunt.

So, I have adopted people in the past, loved them, like family.  But they abandoned me.  Well, like I said, people can change.  

But I also now look at what people represent.  Do they compromise values?  Do they respect themselves?  Do they lie?  Are they mean?  Do they have integrity?  I am careful now not, to just be a friend with anybody, any more.  I value myself that much, that if someone wants to be my friend, they have to be for real, in having some good values.  ….They have to prove it, to me, now.  

Any way, I feel like there is someone, I am talking to.  Someone, who wants to fit in.  And you are about to compromise yourself, or values, that make you special, in Christ.  Don’t. 

The other day, because I am a Conservative Christian, on social media, someone told me something, and it kind of hurt my feelings, but it made me realize the truth too, because I was supporting something.   This someone told me; you will never fit in with them, because you are Hispanic, and you may agree with them, but they will not accept you.

And that stung.  Because I am an American.  I have legal rights, as an American.  Born and raised here, with indigenous roots.  So….I know who I am.  I am fairly educated, even though in some areas of that, I do lack, because I did not go to college.  

But I realize, even in some Christian circles, I will never be accepted.  By some.  And I am not the kind of person, that looks for race, as my outlet.  So, I don’t use it for, or against anyone either.  But some do.  

But it made me realize, I don’t need to go looking for love, in all the wrong places.  Or even in political circles.  Or even in the body of Christ.  In fact, sadly there are those in the body of Christ, who have hurt me the most.  

I have tried, to be accepted, even in my writings, as my gift.  And hoping, doors would open for me, and they have been shut.  Why?  I don’t know?  Is it the race card, I don’t know, but I know, by some, I will not fit in.  My writings, publishers, have turned away.  If people share my thoughts, thats great, but I don’t ask any more.  

So, I don’t try and second guess any more, because life is too short, to keep banging on doors, that just won’t open. And I don’t compromise by flattery to have those doors open either.  Though, I am nice, polite, I don’t beg. 

I don’t go looking any more, for acceptance, or for favor, or to fit in.  I don’t need drugs, or anything to be a comfort.  

I am content, with what God has given me, in my family, and in Him.  No, I wanted more, in this life I live.  But I see I did reap, what I sowed, in other ways, but now, I don’t care to try, to please people. 

Yet, I see so many hurting, lonely people, that I have compassion for, and the love of Christ rises in me, to want to help, but I also know, in all honesty, we reap what we sow.  

If I could sit a young woman down, and talk to her, maybe she could understand. But since I am not in a position to even be in that “circle” maybe what I write, here, could help her, or him, not to sell yourself.  Not to give yourself away.  

There are valuable attributes, to claim, when you respect yourself. And, no matter where you are, you do not have to give yourself away, to be a part of something good, or great.  

Now, I know God has taught me this, to respect myself, but it did come with some heartache.  But I know, where ever He may lead me, I don’t have to look for love.  I don’t have to beg people to accept me.  I don’t have to compromise my values, in Christ, for acceptance, or to be a part of something.  

I don’t.  And I will not.  

Please just know, you need to “Stop Looking for Love in all the wrong places.”  Don’t take anything to fill that void, clear your spirit.  By not polluting it, or your body. Go to God, He will fill that void in your life.  He knows what you need, He does not make you suffer, just to suffer, but He will correct you, because He loves you. And so suffering does sometimes come with correction.  

Ensure your salvation with Christ.  And I would tell anybody that.  Hell is real, even on earth.  Even if you were a Christian at one time.  Rededicate yourself to Christ.  

Repentance, always clears the slate.  Talk to Him, He is your greatest friend.  You don’t need to beg anybody, or compromise yourself to be with people.  You may long for it, but when God closes one door, He will open another.  

And maybe thats where I am at right now, because I see some doors closing, even now, that I won’t elaborate on, but I am so hopeful, for just a new beginning for me and my family.  

But people will not always be happy for you.  Nor will they support you, because they do not see the value in you, because they don’t see the value in themselves as well.  Some people will purposely try to hold you back.  But you don’t have to give them that advantage over you, if you do things the way of the Lord. 

So move on, and let God guide you.  Your heart will mend, if you do things His way.  Your peace, will be fulfilled, and you will find your heart mended, and that void will go away.

Stop looking for love in all the wrong places…

Just remember this.  God is love.  He is Holy.  Love, real love, can only be fulfilled by Him, and through Him.  Anything else, sorry to say, is not pure, its not good, its not worthy of you losing your soul over. Anything else, could be counterfeit.  If He is not in it.  For you would be missing, the love God could give you.   

BELOVED, LET US LOVE ONE ANOTHER:  FOR LOVE IS OF GOD: AND EVERY ONE THAT LOVETH IS BORN OF GOD, AND KNOWETH GOD.  HE THAT LOVETH NOT KNOWETH NOT GOD; FOR GOD IS LOVE.  IN THIS WAS MANIFESTED THE LOVE OF GOD TOWARD US, BECAUSE  THAT GOD SENT HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON INTO THE WORLD THAT WE MIGHT LIVE THROUGH HIM.  

I John 4:7-9 King James.  

I hope this helps someone.  Feel free to share this, or to comment, below.  I will gladly pray for you.  

Blessings, in Christ,  Elena Ramirez 

 

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WHY IS FAVOR DECEITFUL? ~ By Christian Author Elena Ramirez


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Why Is Favor Deceitful?  By Christian Author Elena Ramirez 

FAVOR IS DECEITFUL, AND BEAUTY IS VAIN:  BUT A WOMAN THAT FEARETH THE LORD, SHE SHALL BE PRAISED.  Proverbs 31:30.  KJV.  

I have to say first, that I fear God.  I have learned that, in my journey of life.  I know there are consequences to sin.  I know, that I have reaped what I have sowed, many times.   So I fear God.  I fear the one, who can part heaven and earth on my behalf.  I fear God, who has the final say, as to whether or not Heaven or hell is my home for eternity.  I fear God.  I have learned this.  

Yet there is grace, and there is a compassion, and mercy, that God extends, but I have to be honest.  Thats favor.  

 And I always want to make you think…. Even as I ask this question. Why is favor Deceitful? For the above scripture says it is. And I believe Gods King James word.

Thats why this blog is called, “Just My Thoughts”, but I know its not me, its God, and He gives me the inspiration, I do have.  I call that favor. And I really study His word, to pray, to have the mind of Christ.  But I don’t take it for granted, because I know its a gift.  And if He favors me to do that, I want to do it, at my best ability, for His glory.  But I also realize….

In my own personal life….

Favor, has not been a strong force in my life.  Even according to the worlds standards.  Doors haven’t flung open.  People, and help has not come my way.  Money has not been a great favor either.  And maybe thats good.  Things, have not easily come to me.  

Yet, He meets my every need.  When I need.  Thats favor as well. I am trying to find the balance in this, because I am grateful.  But yet, I haven’t had great favor from people, even from family.  Or friends, I realize.  As I write this.  

I have had my struggles, and I won’t go into all the details.  But, on the subject of favor, and in my humble opinion, I just have a sense, even lately, that we can miss it.  One can take things for granted.  And I think thats a dangerous place to be.  

You can miss it, if you have favor.  And this is why I believe the scripture says it can be deceitful.  It may handicap you so you don’t strive for the excellence, from God, in fear of God.  

Because you think, you know what?

He loves me, this is a great life I live, and I have His favor.  So you stop trying….

You stop trying to please God.  You stop taking the commandments to heart.  His law. You start puffing yourself up, like you are a know it all, or you might even think you are better then somebody else.  So many people in our world, deny God, because they think its all about them, and that is just wrong.  

And when I give an analogy, of why I feel even here, why favor can be deceitful, it is because it could, cause one, to stop growing.  

Just think about it. Think about the beautiful people you know.  People, that are handed things in life, without much of a struggle, they have favor.  But when you look at them sometimes deeper, you realize like all of us, they have flaws.  But yet, they think they are better.   The light might be on, but who is inside?  

The flaws, may not be on the outside, because they are beautiful.  But inside, they are broken.  But they might not see it.  They are, content, even to say, that they don’t feel like they have to try.  I have met people like that.  I have met some people, who like to play at being dumb, and thats a dangerous place to be.  They put the “duh” in dumb.  

And they may even say they believe in God, but there is something, I see, and I relate it to scripture.  That is missing, and is it because favor was deceitful?

FOR MEN SHALL BE LOVERS OF THEIR OWN SELVES, COVETOUS, BOASTERS, PROUD, BLASPHEMERS, DISOBEDIENT TO PARENTS, UNTHANKFUL, UNHOLY, WITHOUT NATURAL AFFECTION, TRUCEBREAKERS, FALSE ACCUSERS, INCONTINENT, FIERCE, DESPISERS OF THOSE THAT ARE GOOD, TRAITORS, HEADY, HIGHMINDED, LOVERS OF PLEASURES MORE THAN LOVERS OF GOD; HAVING A FORM OF GODLINESS, BUT DENYING THE POWER THEREOF, FROM SUCH TURN AWAY.  II TIMOTHY 3:3-5.  KJV (please see this from a King James, these same scriptures are out there, but they are corrupted word)

They deny the power thereof.  I will repeat that, they deny the power thereof, because I think, they believe, the favor they have, or may I even say, the “grace” they have, makes them think they don’t have to even say, please or thank you.  

They don’t have to try, they think its all a given.  The favor.  They think they deserve it.  Just because they are on this earth.  Wrong.  Turn away from those kind of examples.  And those kind of people, they should not be your role model.  Jesus should be.  

Do we deserve favor?  I used to think I did. I used to think, I deserved it.  I used to think, just because I served, God, I deserved it.  But, at this point in my life, with all my own failures, and my own flaws, I don’t think I deserve favor any more.  

Maybe thats sad, to expect it, or want it, and evens ay that here, but maybe its for the best, I have not had great favor.  Now I know, I am the head, and not the tail.  According to scripture, but I want to find the right balance, that pleases God.  

Maybe, because I have learned the hard way, to work for what I have, to be my own person, in Christ, and not take anything for granted.  To study who He is, personally.  And see His attributes, His beautiful characteristics.  

To not take a religious figure, and put them on a pedestal, because we all can miss it.  Because that is also idolatry.  And God gets jealous.  But to just be thankful, for what I do have, and give God glory, because I see the difference.  

See, grace and favor, are great, to have, and I am not an idiot, I would love it.  But, I have learned, as well, that favor, can be deceitful.  The enemy, can distract you, and have doors opened, that may make you, think its favor from God, but it may be a test.  How about that idea?  Hmm…..

I was just talking about this with a friend, lately, that, I am sometimes hard on myself.  But, I would rather be hard on myself, and see the error of my ways, then to offer myself grace, and miss it.  

I don’t want to miss being accountable to God and others.  Growth can only happen when we see the error of our ways, repent to God, and in that process, perhaps apologize to someone, or try to make it up, in one way or another.  But more to God.  To change more like Christ.  To get my eyes off of me, my problems, and look at how Christ relates to it.  

But if you have constant favor, you might not try.  So, you be the judge, in it, concerning your own life.  Yes, I long for favor too, but in it, I just pray, I will not grow cold, indifferent, desensitized, or I will not get puffed up, or full of myself and forget where I came from.

This West side kid, from Denver, Colorado, knows her humble beginnings.  I know where God has brought me, from.  I know, I am nothing without Jesus.  I know I hit rock bottom at one time.  I know, that I fell through the cracks in many ways.   

Maybe thats all the favor I need.  Because He saved me.  He reached out, and saved me.  I will take it, and be thankful.  I will also serve Him, for the rest of my life.  Whether I have extra favor or not.  

God already proved Himself to me, and I know it.  He does not have to jump through hoops for me.  I know He saved me, I know my God.  And I also, know there is a lost world out there.  I know, many need to see His light, and I will try and shine it.  

And I pray if I ever get any more favor, I will always be mindful to consider those scriptures above, and not deny the power, thereof.  Because then the scripture would be fulfilled to say that yes, favor is deceitful.  And I don’t want favor to be deceitful in my life.

 Just saying….in just these thoughts of mine.

Blessings and love,

Elena Ramirez 

 

 

WATCHING THE COMPANIONS YOU WALK WITH ~ By Christian Author Elena Ramirez


IMG_3138WATCHING THE COMPANIONS YOU WALK WITH ~ By Christian Author Elena Ramirez

 
I learned at an early age that people can influence you. They can corrupt you, they can ruin your life, if you don’t get wise.
 
Wisdom, sometimes, it does not come till much later in our lives. Because we have to learn through our mistakes. We learn through our sins, we learn through the lack of progress…
 
At least I did.
 
Anyway, I feel like I need to write this for someone. To warn you. There is….
 
Someone, that just is not good for you. You know it, but you need to know what God says…. Because you keep going with it. Maybe you love that person, maybe you keep forgiving…. But the bottom line is this person is destructive, and will be the ruin of you.
 
You are unequally yoked with this person. There is no understanding, or respect to you, for your love for God. You need to get away….
 
Scripture tells us to not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever. I could write the scripture down here for you.
 
But you need to start searching, and growing in the Lord.
 
Get a King James bible. Then get a concordance, a good Bible King James bible app. Put in the words, “unequally yoked.” Or righteousness, darkness, also as options. To find the scripture. (clue its in II Corinthians)
 
Keep growing my friends, and be careful who you walk with….
 

LEARNING TO REBUKE IN THE NAME OF JESUS ~ By Christian Author Elena Ramirez


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If interested in reading my books via Smashwords, go to this link. My latest book. BEHAVIORAL CURSES THAT CHANGE INTO BLESSINGS WITH CHRIST. This book brings attention to the behaviors, one may have that can contribute to a curse. But by Christ it can change into a blessing. A must read for someone wondering about generational curses etc. And why we do some of the things we do….
“HOW TO HAVE FAITH” This book is a self-help book to bring insight to your faith, and to know what pleases God. Both are on SMASHWORDS…..
https://www.smashwords.com/interview/ElenaRamirezChristianauthor
If interested in ordering the Paper Back go to this link. http://howtohavefaith.wordpress.com

I probably, could write a book on this.  Rebuking.  I have done enough fighting in my lifetime, physical and spiritual to know the tactics of the enemy.  

And the many ways, we should learn to rebuke.  

But, I will for now, just reserve that thought, until I get a prompting from God, or even my readers.  Because I will not move until God gives me direction.  I will not cast my pearls to swine,  and I will not do something this great, without the anointing.  I need to see the favor.  I need to see, the plan of God, directing me, or even someone to give me a book deal.  I need to see the anointing.  

So I rebuke, the obstacles that get in the way of that, even here.

And I guess that leads me to write this, because so many of us as Christians, do not realize the authority, we have in rebuking.  And I see it so clear lately.  

We need to learn…But we need to teach ourselves, through the prompting of the Holy Spirit.

We can get lost, in our own battles, in our own way of thinking.  If we do not utilize Christ as the way, the truth, and life.

Jesus did it.  He rebuked.

AND JESUS REBUKED THE DEVIL: AND HE DEPARTED OUT OF HIM: AND THE CHILD WAS CURED FROM THAT VERY HOUR. Matthew 17:18 King James

And he taught us, that we have an authority in Jesus name.  We have power from heaven above to speak things, into the natural atmosphere, but also into the supernatural atmosphere.

We can rebuke people, thoughts, and it just reminds me, that we do not always battle against flesh, and blood, but authorities in high places.  But the enemy uses people.  So rebuke someone, when it does not line up with the Holy word of God.  I do more then ever! Courage….

But I briefly, want to touch on rebuking in our minds.  You see the battle is in the mind.  What you think is usually the outcome.  And there is some negative thinking out there.  Again, I remind you from a few previous posts, I wrote even here, beware of subliminal messages.  They are all over.  That try to inundate you, to make you feel powerless.  People get some junk out there, and they think its true.  

But does it line up with the Holy word, of a King James bible?

When you have battles in the mind, doubt creeps in.  Fear comes in, IF you let it.  Do you see that key word… “IF”?

Aren’t you tired of being sick and tired?  Not seeing any progress.  I am no longer going to be tired, I am going to do something about it, even if it is just in my mind.  I am not going to give into defeat.  I am not going to NOT believe, so I can make  progress.  

I am not going to believe reports.  If my Bible says otherwise.   I am not.  My bible says, I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me, and I believe it.  

I KNOW THAT I KNOW WHO GOD IS, AND I REBUKE THE DEVIL IN THE NAME OF JESUS, AND BY THE BLOOD OF JESUS I PLEAD!

You have to take captive these thoughts, whatever they may be.  You must bring them to the obedience of Christ.  You must if you want a victory…..

Get the mind of Christ….Not the worlds.  Not another Christian leader, not some pawn of the enemy.  Get the mind of Christ.  But you have to go for it, discipline yourself, and stop being lazy.  

I have faith, in God, truth is, I have not always have had faith in me.  But the beginning is knowing who He is.  Knowing He is not mocked.  How just a little doubt can make you go without.  So I rebuke, doubt.  

I rebuke anything that tries to overwhelm me in my thinking.  I rebuke it.  I kick it away, like a tin can, and say, with the power of God, that tells me I can remove mountains be gone!  This gives me confidence, because greater is He that is in me, then he that is in the world.  

I am not going to give you a books worth of thought, but a seed here.  Which again, may grow into a book.  We will see…

But be mindful of your thoughts.  Be mindful to claim holy King James word.  Be mindful of your words, that stop the progress.  Be mindful of how you treat people.  Or even God….He is not mocked.  He hates pride, but lifts up the humble.  So be careful how you rebuke.  Be careful love is in it….Love of God first!

Be mindful, to obey God, in your prayer, by knowing how to rebuke, remember, Christ told us, whatsoever we bind on earth, will be bound.  Whatsoever we release in his name, will be released.  When you are in that state of sadness, depression, defeat, whatever, rebuke it! 

In the name of Jesus.  

Start taking your authority.  Be bold, be courageous, don’t wimp out!  Don’t have a pity party!  Pick yourself up by your boot straps, put on your armor of God, and rebuke in the name of Jesus!  LEARN!

I humbly admit, I don’t know it all…but I know who God is.  And I know, He can teach me, He has.  But you have to want to learn.  Stop walking around like a zombie.  Stop, just accepting defeat, as the way.  Its not the way of Christ…..

You have an assignment, look up King James scriptures on the word REBUKE.  And then meditate on them, memorize them, gain strength, hide them in your heart for the time you need them…..

 

AND THE LORD SAID UNTO SATAN, THE LORD REBUKE THEE, O SATAN, EVEN THE LORD THAT HATH CHOSEN JERUSALEM REBUKE THEE;  IS NOT THIS A BRAND PLUCKED OUT OF THE FIRE?  ZECHARIAH 3:2 KING JAMES.  

PREACH THE WORD; BE INSTANT IN SEASON, OUT OF SEASON, REPROVE, REBUKE, EXHORT WITH ALL LONGSUFFERING AND DOCTRINE.  II TIMOTHY 4:2 KING JAMES.

AND DAVID WENT OUT TO MEET THEM, AND ANSWERED AND SAID UNTO THEM, IF YE BE COME PEACEABLY UNTO ME TO HELP ME, MINE HEART SHALL BE KNIT UNTO YOU:  BUT IF YE BE COME TO BETRAY ME TO MINE ENEMIES, SEEING THERE IS NO WRONG IN MINE HANDS, THE GOD OF OUR FATHERS LOOK THEREON, AND REBUKE IT.  I CHRONICLES 12:17.  KING JAMES

Blessings, and love, Elena Ramirez

 

 

THE POWER OF RELEASING SOMEONE IN FORGIVENESS ~ By Christian Author Elena Ramirez


If interested in reading my books via Smashwords, go to this link. My latest book. BEHAVIORAL CURSES THAT CHANGE INTO BLESSINGS WITH CHRIST. This book brings attention to the behaviors, one may have that can contribute to a curse. But by Christ it can change into a blessing. A must read for someone wondering about generational curses etc. And why we do some of the things we do.... "HOW TO HAVE FAITH" This book is a self-help book to bring insight to your faith, and to know what pleases God. Both are on SMASHWORDS..... https://www.smashwords.com/interview/ElenaRamirezChristianauthor If interested in ordering the Paper Back go to this link. http://howtohavefaith.wordpress.com

If interested in reading my books via Smashwords, go to this link. My latest book. BEHAVIORAL CURSES THAT CHANGE INTO BLESSINGS WITH CHRIST. This book brings attention to the behaviors, one may have that can contribute to a curse. But by Christ it can change into a blessing. A must read for someone wondering about generational curses etc. And why we do some of the things we do….
“HOW TO HAVE FAITH” This book is a self-help book to bring insight to your faith, and to know what pleases God. Both are on SMASHWORDS…..
https://www.smashwords.com/interview/ElenaRamirezChristianauthor
If interested in ordering the Paper Back go to this link. http://howtohavefaith.wordpress.com

I know, I have written a few things on forgiveness, but I want to take this in a different direction.  And that is learning to release someone in forgiveness, by telling them so.

Have you ever apologized to someone, and you know you made a mistake, and so you apologized, but they did not acknowledge your apology?  They ignored you, or remained silent.  Or still continued blaming you in unforgiveness?

This has happened to me a lot.  And many times, I just walked away sad, because what I really wanted to hear, was I do forgive you.

I learned, to say, I was sorry, at a very, very early age.  I had a strict mom, and I wanted to please her.  Now, I was not a model child by any means.  And I still am not.  Even as a child of God. I make mistakes.  In judgment, I do often in fact.  I pray not to do so, but sometimes, well, I do.  

I pray, God guide me in this, but one thing I have learned, is not to carry any kind of guilt, or condemnation, from myself, or others, or even from God.  So I repent first to God.  Then I apologize to others.  I humble myself, even sometimes, when I am right.  But…

If it does not feel right, I know, as an unction from God to release it.

But there are people, I love, people I admire, people I respect, that may not see it the same way as I do.  

And so what can I do?  But just pray for them myself.

You see, I believe there is a power, in releasing someone in forgiveness.  It takes away pride.  It takes away, any kind of self control in the matter, that can be manipulative, to have someone indebted to you.  I know where that spirit comes, and I get right to the root of it.  It comes from the devil.  

I do not want to be indebted to the enemy in any way.  In even a legal way, where he can accuse me or, try to take my blessings.  I don’t want to be indebted to anyone, nor to myself, in the sense, I want to carry a grudge.  Because if you do not release someone in forgiveness, you will carry a grudge.  

You have not taken the final step, to release that person, from that offense, so you will ponder on it, and you may grow a seed of hate.

How naive we all can be.  By not forgiving someone, or releasing them in forgiveness we have to know what scripture says, and God says if we do not forgive our brother, our friend, etc.  He will not forgive us.  

MATTHEW 6:15 BUT IF YE FORGIVE NOT MEN THEIR TRESPASSES, NEITHER WILL YOUR FATHER FORGIVE YOUR TRESPASSES.  

I don’t want that.  I don’t want that hanging over me.  Its strange, but lately, for whatever reason God has been showing me this….  I have been thinking, or dreaming of people.  I have known in the past.  Those that were even family, or friends, that are no longer friends.  They are not in my life.  And I just have had a sense, God was trying to get me to repent, and to forgive them.  So I have.  I may not have thought, I had not forgiven them.  But you know God knows our hearts better then we do. Now, I cannot contact them, but God knows.  

But, I think we can close the circle, when we have a chance. When we have a chance to ask someone to forgive us, or to even find a person, and say…..I forgive you.  Or say.  I am sorry.  

But I really want to impress upon you, to release them by telling them you forgive them.  As they apologize.  And we all know…

More times, people do not apologize.  Even if they don’t ask for it.  Tell them you forgive them.  Why?  Because you don’t want that garbage in you.  That can grow into hate.  Maybe somehow you will remind them, that this is what God wants for us all.  

What a release, it is.  What power, you feel from heaven, above.  A cleansing.  I cannot explain it.  I don’t know all the benefits of it.  But I look at it as someone who was in chains, and now no longer in chains.

And in order to keep those chains off, I keep forgiving.  I keep asking for forgiveness.  From God and others.  In fact I do this daily, because I still make mistakes.  

You see, I actually do care, and I do want to be accountable to God.  To others.  I want to work out my salvation, clear of unforgiveness.  

I think of how many times, an apology would have blessed me, comforted me, soothed me, and even proved love.  And when I did not get it, a wound, may be healed.  Because I know what God says….

But it is always tender to the touch.  I have enough scars about me, to know this to be true.  So grateful for the armor of God, to quench the fiery darts, even when I am not released in forgiveness.  

I hope this blesses you, much Love, Elena Ramirez

SUBLIMINAL SICK MESSAGES BEWARE OF THEM ~ By Christian Author Elena Ramirez


If interested in reading my books via Smashwords, go to this link. My latest book. BEHAVIORAL CURSES THAT CHANGE INTO BLESSINGS WITH CHRIST. This book brings attention to the behaviors, one may have that can contribute to a curse. But by Christ it can change into a blessing. A must read for someone wondering about generational curses etc. And why we do some of the things we do.... "HOW TO HAVE FAITH" This book is a self-help book to bring insight to your faith, and to know what pleases God. Both are on SMASHWORDS..... https://www.smashwords.com/interview/ElenaRamirezChristianauthor If interested in ordering the Paper Back go to this link. http://howtohavefaith.wordpress.com

If interested in reading my books via Smashwords, go to this link. My latest book. BEHAVIORAL CURSES THAT CHANGE INTO BLESSINGS WITH CHRIST. This book brings attention to the behaviors, one may have that can contribute to a curse. But by Christ it can change into a blessing. A must read for someone wondering about generational curses etc. And why we do some of the things we do….
“HOW TO HAVE FAITH” This book is a self-help book to bring insight to your faith, and to know what pleases God. Both are on SMASHWORDS…..
https://www.smashwords.com/interview/ElenaRamirezChristianauthor
If interested in ordering the Paper Back go to this link. http://howtohavefaith.wordpress.com

A Christian, really does need to keep his or her guard up.  There are some sick messages out there, and they are every where.  It is so sad, that more moral, or thoughts of integrity, are not available to see, view, and ponder on.  But, it is a fight, I suppose between good and evil.

Evil.  Yuk, just even writing the word can leave a bad taste.  Spiritually, that is, because if you ponder on something, you are eating it.  No, I remember what God says, even from the beginning.  Do not eat from the tree of good and evil.  It was a commandment, Adam and Eve broke.  They should have gone to God, which we can still do, and pray, but symbolically, the message is the same.  Do not sin.  Don’t eat from the tree of evil, eat from that which is good.  So how do we guard ourselves?

Well, we really do have to be in tune to what God says.  His holy word, a word not corrupted.  A King James word.  We have to be in prayer, and we have to have our armor on.  The armor of God.

There are many “subliminal” messages, that tell you its o.k. to sin.  Its ok to talk to other spiritual entities, to believe in ghosts, to have sex, to be dishonest, they are every where!  etc. etc. 

You just have to know what is right and wrong in the sight of God. 

Just yesterday, I saw one, at the movies, where they turned it into a cartoon, but it came straight from hell.  Where a dark spirit, kept having to fight to make a point.  And I thought a kid, a child, would be entertained with that.  And as I looked in the audience, I was seeing adults take it all in.  I just shook my head, and told my husband the subliminal messages of that sort comes to distort all that is good.  

It really is sad.  What is going to happen, that we may not even be able to turn on our televisions, or watch a movie, with some kind of filter, to quench those subliminal messages?  I don’t know.  

All I know is I am aware of them.  And not everything goes.  Part truth, part lies, do not bring innocence back.  It does not make you feel that good warm, and fuzzy feeling.  That sense of good.  That sense of moral integrity.  

Those kind of subliminal messages, say its o.k. to be bad.  When I am looking for a good movie to watch.  I either have to look for a very old movie, or one that has a good story line, without the implication of some kind of sin.  I look just at the menu of what movies that are playing, and even in the titles, the subliminal messages are so bad, that you cannot help but see the goal in our society is to pervert.  It almost seems like an agenda.  Or a conspiracy.  Pollute the minds of people.  And maybe that thought is not too far from the truth, because I wonder where are the systems in place to keep people safe from some of this crap.  

I really believe that if we take enough of this crap into our systems, we can sin.  We can, pollute our own spirits.  

I know, just by writing this, I am just tapping into the atrocity of this.  But we need to have to see.  We have to monitor our kids, and ourselves.  There is so much filth out there, that it does pollute the way people view things.  No longer, do we see wholesome shows, like I used to when I was a kid.  Those that have a moral message, to be good, or to pray, or to seek God, when in trouble.  When was the last time you saw some disaster movie, where they prayed.  No, they do not. They may sing “row, row your boat”, to get their minds off of the danger, but its sad.  (I won’t name that movie.) 

Subliminal messages, should be good too.  Try looking for them.  And if you cannot find them, try being an example of a subliminal message that gives glory to God.  That gives the example of moral, honesty, and integrity.  If not for someone else to see.  For yourself, to see as you repent.  As you seek God.  To live a clean life, an honest life, a life that has discernment to depart from evil, and that one that someone can say, that person really is a reflection of Christ, in all ways, including being a good example.  

Just my thoughts, today, blessings and love,

 No man, when he hath lighted a candle, putteth it in a secret place, neither under a bushel, but on a candle stick, that they which come in may see the light.  The light of the body is the eye, therefore when the thine eye is single, thy whole body also is full of light; but when thine eye is evil, thy body also is full of darkness.  Take heed therefore that the light which is in thee be not darkness.  If thy whole body therefore be full of light, having no part dark, the whole shall be full of light, as when the bright shining of a candle doth give thee light.  Luke 11:33-36.  

Elena Ramirez 

 

Lord, my prayer, today is help me to know what your word says.  Help me to know your heart.  Help me, help my own heart to be pure, and to think good thoughts.  Not evil.  Not filthy.  Not cold, or mean, or hateful thoughts.  Help me to see the subliminal messages, so I can have discernment between good and evil.  So I can depart from evil.  Help me not to look at any vain thing, or anything that is perverted.  So I do not accept these things.  Lord, help our society.  Help others, to see that we are what we eat.  And that is spiritually as well.  Lord, I repent.  Because even last night, after watching some junk on television, for lack of anything else to watch, I felt cold in my spirit.  I do repent.  Forgive me, and help me to change my viewing habits, on television, or by what I read, or view.  So I do not accept anything that offends you.  And so I can grow.

In Jesus name.  Amen

 

THE MANY STRATEGIES OF FORGIVENESS ~ By Christian Author Elena Ramirez


If interested in reading my books via Smashwords, go to this link. My latest book. BEHAVIORAL CURSES THAT CHANGE INTO BLESSINGS WITH CHRIST. This book brings attention to the behaviors, one may have that can contribute to a curse. But by Christ it can change into a blessing. A must read for someone wondering about generational curses etc. And why we do some of the things we do.... "HOW TO HAVE FAITH" This book is a self-help book to bring insight to your faith, and to know what pleases God. Both are on SMASHWORDS..... https://www.smashwords.com/interview/ElenaRamirezChristianauthor If interested in ordering the Paper Back go to this link. http://howtohavefaith.wordpress.com

If interested in reading my books via Smashwords, go to this link. My latest book. BEHAVIORAL CURSES THAT CHANGE INTO BLESSINGS WITH CHRIST. This book brings attention to the behaviors, one may have that can contribute to a curse. But by Christ it can change into a blessing. A must read for someone wondering about generational curses etc. And why we do some of the things we do….
“HOW TO HAVE FAITH” This book is a self-help book to bring insight to your faith, and to know what pleases God. Both are on SMASHWORDS…..
https://www.smashwords.com/interview/ElenaRamirezChristianauthor
If interested in ordering the Paper Back go to this link. http://howtohavefaith.wordpress.com

I truly believe, because I have learned the benefits and strategies of forgiveness, that what I am about to share with you, will truly make you mindful to forgive.  But to also ask for forgiveness.  

Forgiveness is a cleanser.  It cleans our souls.  It cleans our spirits, of any bad vibes, any evil, any polluting of our spirits.  Anything the enemy will use to stop us from wanting to be blessed.  The enemy wants to steal our blessings by making us not see how important forgiving is.  

We should all want to be good at forgiving.  Not holding a grudge, not giving someone free rent in our minds and hearts, because we will not forgive.  We should not be taking the poison, that unforgiveness gives.  

And it is poison.  This is why Christ told us to forgive.  And because of that I believe that…He wants us to go to our enemy, or someone who offended us, and to release that by forgiving, so we would not keep that bitter spirit in us, that can actually turn into a “root of bitterness”  because the unforgiveness, would not leave.  

I actually believe, that it can cause physical cancer.  Because it is nurtured in hate, it is nurtured in thinking of it over and over again, and it can grow. It manifests itself, and turns into a disease.  It can even be passed down from generation to generation, because the thought to forgive is not taught to another generation.  Vengeance is mine saith the Lord.  

And though many of us, know we are to forgive.  We do not know that we should also ask for forgiveness.  Scripture says, the Lord lifts the humble, but He turns from the proud.  When one is so arrogant, so prideful, so adamant to not budge when it comes to being humble and saying I am sorry, please forgive me.  They are allowing the enemy to play.  They are allowing that spirit of unforgiveness as well to be present in their hearts.  Going to someone, and apologizing, is not losing face.  Its not losing any ground.  If anything, it gives you leverage, because you are pleasing God.  You are pleasing Father, and that spirit will leave you.  

We always have to remember Christ is the way, the truth, and life.  And His ways, tells us to be humble, in matters like this.  Make peace with your enemy.  Make peace, with yourself.  With others.  More then anything make peace with God!

The more one thinks about an offense, and to me, who does not nip it in the bud, right then right there, with yourself and others.  Is a coward.  Yes, a coward.  Because you may have gotten offended, but you did not set the record straight with someone, and yourself, and you let it go.  But you really did not let it go without Gods ways, and that is forgiving.  Thats not forgiving when you let it go that way.  Thats being in denial.  

Now I know there are many circumstances you cannot address it to someone else, because they are gone, or they are not around, or you just don’t know where to reach them.  But if you can, and you could, go to them.  Tell them you forgive.  Or tell them you want to be forgiven.  Clean the slate.  

But if you cannot do this….

This is where prayer comes in.  This is where talking to God, and releasing it to Him, makes a difference.  Being mindful in your own behavior, to learn to forgive others, and to ask for forgiveness.  My mom taught me at an early age, to apologize.  She forced me, because I wanted peace with her.  But yet, we would because of our own different view points, get caught up in something over and over again, and those resentments would arise.  What a strange relationship.  But, I do not hold any ill feelings toward her.  Even now that she is dead.  You know forgiving someone, even yourself, sometimes, with the grace of God.  Can show you why a person, is the way they are.  Without nurturing, or truth, especially Gods truth, our King James bibles we can miss it.  

Just because you are a Christian, does not mean you are excused to not forgive anybody.  In fact, the more the reason to be an example of Christ in this.  Because when much is given, much is expected.  Christ died on that cross for you and me.  He took the penalty of sin for our lives.  He knows what sin can do.  Unforgiveness is sin.  Christ on that cross said forgive them father, for they know not what they do.  

When we don’t know what God truly expects, and with fear of Him, and yes the consequences, we do not forgive.  Nor do we ask for forgiveness.

This has to be taught, to understand the strategy the enemy will use to take your blessings.  To take your growth.  To take away love.  Love is not there, if God is not there.  And when God is there, the opportunity to forgive is always available.

But it begins with true repentance.  To God, and to others.  Let the cleansing begin.  Don’t hold onto something that happened even years ago.  Release it to God.  Release others.  Release yourself.  

Forgiveness, is not just a tactic, or a strategy, it is a commandment from God.  Forgiving definitely goes hand in hand with repenting.  Because God forgives when we repent.  This is why I always want to be repenting.  Because I want the grace of forgiveness.  But I do not take it for granted.  Because of Christ’s sacrifice.  It was too great.  

For if we do not forgive others, including ourselves, through Christ.  He will not forgive us.  I just think, again my thoughts, that if we knew what forgiveness could do for ourself and others.  The world would be a better place, but we would run to ask for forgiveness.  Knowing this pleases God.  But it is good for our own souls.  

I pray, this prayer and post will help you.  But I do recommend looking up scriptures on forgiveness from a King James.  There are so many strategies to this, that I think I just scratched the surface.  But let Christ show you.  By the Holy Spirit, by God almighty and His commandments.  

Blessings, and love, Elena Ramirez

IF WE CONFESS OUR SINS, HE IS FAITHFUL AND JUST TO FORGIVE US OUR SINS, AND TO CLEANSE US FROM ALL UNRIGHTEOUSNESS.  I JOHN 1:9.  

Father, I come before your throne, and seek you, your Kingdom and your righteousness.  Lord, I do repent.  I repent daily, because I have come to know myself.  I do not want pride, or anything to hinder me from being in my relationship with you, and yes even with others.  I ask to show me how to be humble.  Like Christ.  I ask that you prompt me every time that ugly spirit of pride would pop up to even stop me from being humble, that I would even remember this prayer.  I want nothing to stop my blessings of knowing you, or my own personal blessings to be stopped.  To turn into obstacles, or to turn into poison, in my soul.  Remove any bitter spirit of unforgiveness.  

I prayed to you just the other day, and I know you recall it.  But you just bring it to my remembrance even now.  That I asked you to forgive me, as I forgave some family members who hurt me greatly when I was young.  I was so naive.  I thought I did forgive them.  They have not been in my life.  But this so grieved me as a child.  The rejection, the hate, the distance.  The jealousy….they had for me.  I did not deserve that.  

But I released them and when I did you brought this message to me more about forgiving.  You know our hearts.  I actually believe you gave me a gift to understanding.  You did and I see it. So clearly after that. When I prayed for them.  For their souls.  For even their family members, as I released this.  

You see things we sometimes do not see.  But this is why it is so important that we forgive.  That we ask to be forgiven by you and others.  

So we can have clean hearts before you.  Thank you for sharing this truth to me, so I can share it with others.  Thank you.  For love, that is extended by forgiveness.  In Jesus name.  Amen.  

If this message blessed you, please share it with others you might know.  I do not ask for money, but I do ask for help in doing Kingdom work.  For our Lord, for love.  Thank you.  Elena