STOP LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES ~ By Christian Author Elena Ramirez


Version 2If you don’t stop looking for love in all the wrong places, the end result of your life will be trashy….Strong words, but truth, please wake up!

I really feel such a strong desire to write about this.  And when I do, I know, its from God Almighty.  So, I pray, my experiences, this that, what I am about to share with you, helps you, to realize, God does not want you looking for love in all the wrong places, as well.

I am older now, my experiences, have taught me many things.  But I learned, and I learned the hard way, that one should:  

“STOP LOOKING FOR LOVE IN ALL THE WRONG PLACES.”

Please allow me to elaborate.  

Right now, I am not looking for love.  I have a wonderful husband, and son, for over 30 years, we have been married, content, and in love, and we have our son, and so I am not looking for a mate.  

But when I was single, when I was growing up, I made many mistakes and had terrible judgment in this area.  I looked for love in all the wrong places.

I had low self-esteem.  I grew up, with my mom, raising me.  I had a father, I knew who he was.  He was a good man.  But he and my mother, did not get along, and were divorced, when I was just a child. 

So, I did not have that father figure to guide me.  

I have written about this in some similar posts, as my secret to true love.  But, I truly believe this.  That many of us, can get so lonely, so desperate for companionship, acceptance, a need to fit in, with others, that we can look for love in all the wrong places.

And I am not just talking about intimacy, or finding love, but just even in relationships, with friends, groups, etc.  We can look for acceptance, and actually compromise, who we are, because we can get so desperate.  It will distort your judgment. That you can even look for it in alcohol, or drugs.  Don’t do that, it will just make the problem worse, so that you cannot have a clear head in these matters.  

And I will elaborate on that as well.

But I know this worked for me, and years ago, after trial and error, I realized I had to change my method, or my approach to finding love.  I wanted true love. I went to God.  

He told me I needed to repent for my sins.  He showed me what He did on that cross for me.  He counseled me.  You know, He is my greatest friend, counselor, therapist, and adviser.  Theres none like God.  He is not imaginary.  He is very real.  He helps me, and helped me then as well.  

I began searching for truth, from my King James Bible.  And anyone that knows me, knows, I do not recommend any other word. Because it is not changed, or corrupted, as scripture tells us not to do.

Anyway….I began to see His ways, are not our ways.  The way of the world.  

The way of the world looks at love, as something cheap.  Its not.  Love em, and leave em, take what you want, thats not holy, and thats what you get.  Something that is not precious, something that is used, and thats not how God intended it to be for us.  Because He did not create us to have “trashy” spirits.  

So when I saw this, that love is not free, in that regard.  I began praying for the right mate.  I determined, that if God brought me a mate, I would do things His way.  Not mine, or the way of the world.  I promised Him, I would do things His way, and I do try.  

When I met my husband, I laid out some rules.  Because I liked him. And I did see potential.  But I did not want to ruin it with sex, or short changing myself, to try and please someone.  Who might, just take pleasure, and then leave.  Anyway, like they say, why buy the cow, when you get the milk for free?  

So, I told this wonderful man, I met, I wanted to do things right.  The way of the Lord.  So, he listened, and that gave him, respect toward me. 

Well long story short, a few months later, he asked me to marry him.  We got married, by holy matrimony, and we are trying in the way of the Lord, to live happily ever after.  

Has it been easy? No not always, but we work at it, we cherish each other, and honor each other.  Because we honored God to wait.   Because we did wait, and we honored God, we have a supernatural bond, that cannot be broken.  

Now, because I am older, I want you to see, by my experiences, that you can have true love, but you can also see, by what I share, that you need to stop looking for love, in all the wrong places.

I am also talking about just fitting in.  Or having friends.  I know myself.  I am a pretty loyal person.  But I have not always had that returned to me.  Right now, I just have a couple of people, that I call friends, that I love, but people change, and I have seen that in my life.  So, I don’t always trust that.  People can come and go…..

And, I don’t rely on people, to fill a void for me.  That void, is only met, as I seek God.  As I pray, as I read my King James Bible, as I stay away from any kind of sin.

I don’t even rely on family.  But I am very grateful for my immediate family.  That I have now.  

But when I say that, I am talking about other family relations.  See, it was just me and mama.  Daddy passed away first, even though, he did not raise me, I knew him.  He provided what he could.  Mama raised me, but life was hard on her.  I had no brothers and sisters.  I don’t even have family on any side, that communicates with me, besides an aunt.

So, I have adopted people in the past, loved them, like family.  But they abandoned me.  Well, like I said, people can change.  

But I also now look at what people represent.  Do they compromise values?  Do they respect themselves?  Do they lie?  Are they mean?  Do they have integrity?  I am careful now not, to just be a friend with anybody, any more.  I value myself that much, that if someone wants to be my friend, they have to be for real, in having some good values.  ….They have to prove it, to me, now.  

Any way, I feel like there is someone, I am talking to.  Someone, who wants to fit in.  And you are about to compromise yourself, or values, that make you special, in Christ.  Don’t. 

The other day, because I am a Conservative Christian, on social media, someone told me something, and it kind of hurt my feelings, but it made me realize the truth too, because I was supporting something.   This someone told me; you will never fit in with them, because you are Hispanic, and you may agree with them, but they will not accept you.

And that stung.  Because I am an American.  I have legal rights, as an American.  Born and raised here, with indigenous roots.  So….I know who I am.  I am fairly educated, even though in some areas of that, I do lack, because I did not go to college.  

But I realize, even in some Christian circles, I will never be accepted.  By some.  And I am not the kind of person, that looks for race, as my outlet.  So, I don’t use it for, or against anyone either.  But some do.  

But it made me realize, I don’t need to go looking for love, in all the wrong places.  Or even in political circles.  Or even in the body of Christ.  In fact, sadly there are those in the body of Christ, who have hurt me the most.  

I have tried, to be accepted, even in my writings, as my gift.  And hoping, doors would open for me, and they have been shut.  Why?  I don’t know?  Is it the race card, I don’t know, but I know, by some, I will not fit in.  My writings, publishers, have turned away.  If people share my thoughts, thats great, but I don’t ask any more.  

So, I don’t try and second guess any more, because life is too short, to keep banging on doors, that just won’t open. And I don’t compromise by flattery to have those doors open either.  Though, I am nice, polite, I don’t beg. 

I don’t go looking any more, for acceptance, or for favor, or to fit in.  I don’t need drugs, or anything to be a comfort.  

I am content, with what God has given me, in my family, and in Him.  No, I wanted more, in this life I live.  But I see I did reap, what I sowed, in other ways, but now, I don’t care to try, to please people. 

Yet, I see so many hurting, lonely people, that I have compassion for, and the love of Christ rises in me, to want to help, but I also know, in all honesty, we reap what we sow.  

If I could sit a young woman down, and talk to her, maybe she could understand. But since I am not in a position to even be in that “circle” maybe what I write, here, could help her, or him, not to sell yourself.  Not to give yourself away.  

There are valuable attributes, to claim, when you respect yourself. And, no matter where you are, you do not have to give yourself away, to be a part of something good, or great.  

Now, I know God has taught me this, to respect myself, but it did come with some heartache.  But I know, where ever He may lead me, I don’t have to look for love.  I don’t have to beg people to accept me.  I don’t have to compromise my values, in Christ, for acceptance, or to be a part of something.  

I don’t.  And I will not.  

Please just know, you need to “Stop Looking for Love in all the wrong places.”  Don’t take anything to fill that void, clear your spirit.  By not polluting it, or your body. Go to God, He will fill that void in your life.  He knows what you need, He does not make you suffer, just to suffer, but He will correct you, because He loves you. And so suffering does sometimes come with correction.  

Ensure your salvation with Christ.  And I would tell anybody that.  Hell is real, even on earth.  Even if you were a Christian at one time.  Rededicate yourself to Christ.  

Repentance, always clears the slate.  Talk to Him, He is your greatest friend.  You don’t need to beg anybody, or compromise yourself to be with people.  You may long for it, but when God closes one door, He will open another.  

And maybe thats where I am at right now, because I see some doors closing, even now, that I won’t elaborate on, but I am so hopeful, for just a new beginning for me and my family.  

But people will not always be happy for you.  Nor will they support you, because they do not see the value in you, because they don’t see the value in themselves as well.  Some people will purposely try to hold you back.  But you don’t have to give them that advantage over you, if you do things the way of the Lord. 

So move on, and let God guide you.  Your heart will mend, if you do things His way.  Your peace, will be fulfilled, and you will find your heart mended, and that void will go away.

Stop looking for love in all the wrong places…

Just remember this.  God is love.  He is Holy.  Love, real love, can only be fulfilled by Him, and through Him.  Anything else, sorry to say, is not pure, its not good, its not worthy of you losing your soul over. Anything else, could be counterfeit.  If He is not in it.  For you would be missing, the love God could give you.   

BELOVED, LET US LOVE ONE ANOTHER:  FOR LOVE IS OF GOD: AND EVERY ONE THAT LOVETH IS BORN OF GOD, AND KNOWETH GOD.  HE THAT LOVETH NOT KNOWETH NOT GOD; FOR GOD IS LOVE.  IN THIS WAS MANIFESTED THE LOVE OF GOD TOWARD US, BECAUSE  THAT GOD SENT HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON INTO THE WORLD THAT WE MIGHT LIVE THROUGH HIM.  

I John 4:7-9 King James.  

I hope this helps someone.  Feel free to share this, or to comment, below.  I will gladly pray for you.  

Blessings, in Christ,  Elena Ramirez 

 

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IF YOU ARE ACCUSED, MISUNDERSTOOD, LIED ABOUT, THEN FIGHT ~ By Christian Author Elena Ramirez


IMG_3505.jpgI believe I have a word for someone.

If you are accused, misunderstood, lied about, then fight.  Yes fight.  Don’t take it sitting down.  Down shut down.  Don’t let the devil have his way.  Don’t lose your courage.  Get your courage, and fight.  Don’t fight dirty, but fight.  Don’t do something you will regret, but with all that is good, all that is Holy, fight.

For you see, there is an enemy, and he does come to kill, steal and destroy.  And he will try and deceive.  Thats his character.  So if you see that characteristic in yourself.  It is time to “submit to God, resist the devil, and he will flee.”  This is scriptural look it up in a King James.   But it must only come by being repentant to God.

Are you guilty by association?  Are you keeping company with the devils disciples?  Are you so cowardly, that you accept wrong behavior? That can get you in trouble.

The devil will try and make a lie look like truth.  He will twist something so much, that people will believe it.  He will legally attack you, if you have opened the door to sin.

But if you know better, and this is the key.  If you are in truth, and Gods truth, then fight a good fight of faith.

The KJV scripture tells us, that there is a place in hell for the accuser.  So you better not be doing the accusing, yourself, because you will reap that.  Thats being a false witness.

NOW I HEARD A LOUD VOICE SAYING IN HEAVEN, NOW IS COME SALVATION, AND STRENGTH, AND THE KINGDOM OF OUR GOD, AND THE POWER OF HIS CHRIST: FOR THE ACCUSER OF OUR BRETHREN IS CAST DOWN WHICH ACCUSED THEM BEFORE OUR GOD DAY AND NIGHT.  REVELATION 12:10.  KJV.  

But if you are in the truth, and you have nothing to hide.  Then fight, get that courage.  Yes, ask God for it, and fight.

You see, I am an opened book.  And I have just learned, I don’t play games.  I seek the truth.  I seek answers.  And I am careful.  No, I have not always had this wisdom.  I have not always been in the truth.  I had sins, that hurt me.  And I have reaped that. But, when I got honest with God, when I got honest with myself, and I saw the deception.  I saw how I have lost so much even in my lifetime, I choose nothing but the truth from God.  I totally submit to God, resist the devil, and he must flee.  I fight….

But I repented.  And there is something, I see in people.  That holds them back. They have pride.  That pride, makes them weaker, not stronger.  It takes their courage away.  I don’t have pride.  To be honest, my mom, taught me early, to apologize.  So I learned to apologize to others, and to God.  But pride, will blind you, it will blind others.  And people would rather, let someone believe the worse about them, then fight.  Because that pride will get in the way.

Giving my pride to God to take away that sin, gives me courage.

I thank God He took my pride away.  But what I do have.  Is dignity.  And I have self-respect.  You know you can give that away, by being gracious, as a Christian, but there comes a time, when you have to see who you are in Christ, and fight.  And take it back.

Recently, I did  that, for my own self.  I took back my self respect.  Because you can let people step on you, by being silent.  Silence is not always golden.  Silence can be used to manipulate you, or reject you.  It can be used against you.  But if you are in truth, you don’t have to take that, and you do not have to be silent.

Because you can lose it, if you get off balance.  Get courage.

Courage, to stand up, courage to tell the truth, courage, to fight the good fight, when you are misunderstood, lied about, accused, shows your character.  Shows your integrity.

So many do not know how to fight.  So many do not know how to get courage.  But ask God.  Yes, He can fight our battles.  But He as the example also teaches us and shows us how to fight.  He opens doors, He brings light, He brings truth, but be the vessel that has courage, and fight.

This is why I fight for Gods truth, for the King James bible.  I am tired of seeing people, not know truth.  I am tired of letting the devil deceive.  I have come to a place, in my own walk with Christ, where I see, how sin hurts us more, and more. One tiny sin, that you think is tiny, can poison your spirit.  It can take away your sense of truth, and you will gain pride.  Pride is a poison.

Yet, I know, we all sin, we all come short of His glory.  But I want to be careful in the balance of this.  I extend grace because I see that fault in my own.  Yet, there is that part of me that will not accept a sin, that could be turned into good.  By Christ.  His ways are excellence.  I fight, using Holy truth, from the King James.

And because I see the corruption of false bibles, where there is part truth, part lie, I see how that poisons the true word of God.  There is no anointing, there is no power, or holiness in these false bibles.  So I fight it with other holy KJV scriptures, and truth.

Oh I am accused of being a Pharisee, I am accused of being in a cult, I am accused of being legalistic.  But, I would rather, have Gods truth, and law, as my guide, then to think grace would just cover my sins.  Think again.  I fight, by presenting this truth, over, and over again.  Its wrong, in His eyes, its disobedience, and it deceives us, exactly what the devil wants to do. 

We are tested.  By God Himself.  And when I think of someone like Job.  And I think even how his own friends misunderstood him, and he was judged.  I thank God, in his own way he fought.  He talked to them.

Communication is everything.  People do not use it for truth any more, it seems.  It seems, they would rather just shut down, then fight for something good.  Even in friendship.  If you are misunderstood, speak, but don’t play games.  Don’t try and make something right if its wrong.  You have to take a good look at yourself, in this matter.  And you have to be willing to take it to God.  And let Him help you, and work it out.

But you can.  Communicate, fight, and get the courage, when you see the injustice.

Pray, and more then anything do not be the problem.  Remember, again, we all sin, and come short of the glory of God.

But what I am trying to get you to see, no let me rephrase that, what God is trying to get you to see is your heart.  Let others see your heart by truth.  Don’t shut down.  Get some back bone, this is what I mean, when I say fight.  The only way you will truly be free, is by Christ, and His truth sets us free.

Open the book.  Open your heart.  Open yourself to truth.  If you are misunderstood, accused, or lied about, even by circumstances.  Fight.  Fighting does not always mean attacking.  It means, you take what you have in truth, and it means if you truly do love.  If you truly have “heartfelt intentions”  then don’t just sit there, shut down, and let the devil steal whats good from you.

You do not let him steal whats right.  If you don’t try, and make it right, by showing your heart to others.  Then you are giving place to the enemy.  You are not submitting to God,

You only keep the book closed, when…..

You don’t care, and when you don’t care, you open the door to the devil.  Its up to you.  Show some courage.  You might get your self respect back too.

 

Blessings, and love,

Elena Ramirez