REMEMBER THE LOVE THE GOOD TIMES TO GO ON EVEN IF YOU ARE HURT ~ By Elena Ramirez
Sometimes, people have to speak things over us, by God so we can see it. So, this is what I will do for you, as my husband spoke this over me.
You see, I had a very dear friend, who I loved dearly. And we were friends for over 25 years. I loved this lady dearly, and you know what she loved me. She was a very generous lady, a very kind lady, in Christ. We both were prayer warriors.
But people change, and I suppose I did too. And well the enemy divided us up. I never thought, I would see that day, but it did happen.
And I won’t go into all the details, but when respect is not given or received, or when one is rejected, well one walks away. I did. Maybe I misunderstood, but since she would not clarify it, thats what I interpreted.
Anyway, long story short, its been over a month. Since we have talked. And I don’t expect her or me to budge in this. Its not that I have pride, but I know when I have done all I can and so, I know I could not add anything more.
But I found myself getting bitter about it, angry, yes I told her I forgave, and I do. But sometimes, you can war within yourself in these matters. I did.
Last night my husband and I were briefly talking about it. And I said, I just feel indifferent now. Not that I don’t care, because I do, but I just am disappointed.
He told me, you know, you need to just let it go. You outgrew each other, and just remember the good in her, she is a good person, and for what it was worth, she blessed you, you blessed her, and now its done. Its over.
Something about his words, ministered to me. I went to sleep finally at peace about it. I prayed God bless her. She is a very kind, and generous person, and she made me laugh, and we were good friends, but sometimes, things change.
People outgrow each other, for different reasons. I suppose she outgrew me, and not that I outgrew her, because I accepted her as she was.
But I accept her choices now, and I RESPECT, her reasons. Even though I do not understand. I can go on.
Perhaps, you struggle, with someone, from your past. Someone you love. A friendship, or even a love. Remember the love, the kindness, the friendship, and don’t demonize them, or hate them, but just release them, with the love, the good that bound you.
See you have to make sure poison, of unforgiveness does not affect you. You have to make sure you are doing your part according to Christ. I cannot control the situation, but I can control how I react to it. I release her in Christ, because she was a gift.
There is a saying, if you love someone, let them go, and if they are yours they will return. I love my friend, enough to walk away, and let her go. I don’t seek to return, to her, nor do I think she seeks to return to me. It is what it is. But I accept it now, with forgiveness in my heart.
But I have peace, and thank God for the times, we were friends, it nurtured me, and I rejoice in the gift of what it was then. It was a gift.
But some gifts, are returned to the sender. No matter what the heart felt intention was. If it was not true, it will show itself. See gifts are just something that is icing on the cake.
But if the sentiment, does not follow up with respect it does not prove itself.
Oh well. God bless your day.
By Elena Ramirez
A FRIEND LOVETH AT ALL TIMES, AND A BROTHER IS BORN FOR ADVERSITY. PROVERBS 17:17 KJV.
As God is my example, of course I forgive. I release the poison. I will not keep it in my heart. I will obey God.
But as God is my example, I do not tolerate disrespect. GOD IS NOT MOCKED. I release the disrespect and the mockery, and I stand my ground. I take back my respect from anybody who tries to steal it.
Disrespect is a form of mockery, and if my Lord, does not tolerate it, why should I? I don’t have to, and I can keep my peace and walk away.
It does not mean I do not forgive it means, I know who I am in Christ.
BE NOT DECEIVED; GOD IS NOT MOCKED: FOR WHATSOEVER A MAN SOWETH, THAT SHALL HE ALSO REAP. FOR HE THAT SOWETH TO HIS FLESH SHALL OF THE FLESH REAP CORRUPTION: BUT HE THAT SOWETH TO THE SPIRIT SHALL OF THE SPIRIT REAP LIFE EVERLASTING. AND LET US NOT BE WEARY IN WELL DOING; FOR IN DUE SEASON WE SHALL REAP IF WE FAINT NOT. AS WE HAVE THEREFORE OPPORTUNITY, LET US DO GOOD UNTO ALL MEN, ESPECIALLY UNTO THEM WHO ARE OF THE HOUSEHOLD OF FAITH.
GALATIANS 6:7-10 KJV.
I hope these thoughts will encourage someone. You see, long story short, if you have ever been disrespected by someone, it feels like they have taken something away from you. And its hard to regain trust, or even a sense of confidence, when you allow someone to do that. Even after you forgive. But Christ did not tell us, to trust someone who does that.
It has happened to me a few times, and even by family members. So recently when an offense occurred between me and a former friend, I knew I could not allow it. And I hate to say former, but right now, it does not look good. I will always care though for this person.
I had tried to extend grace, but that same grace was not extended to me. I called it for what it was. Respect. Respect was not given to me. I was being snubbed and ignored. And I took my respect back.
I walked away. And sometimes you have to do that. The sad thing, is, I love the person. But this person, would not give me the courtesy, that I extended. And it took me a while. To see, it, but really I see and believe God showed me.
I was in a spiritual battle for over two weeks, and I was trying to keep communication opened, but it was closed shut in my face. The Lord showed me this person was given to change. Said one thing, but yet, was being offended with me, and it just did not make sense.
MY SON, FEAR THOU THE LORD, AND THE KING: AND MEDDLE NOT WITH THEM THAT ARE GIVEN TO CHANGE. Proverbs 24:21. KJV.
This person was given to change. The actions, the “heartfelt intentions” this person said they had, did not match the actions.
I think it took me a while because sometimes, you don’t see it. Its subtle, its in subliminal ways, that people treat you, that may be indirect, but keep you puzzled. Or frustrated, because you cannot resolve issues. This is where I was with this person. But I did not see it, because love and friendship should be gracious. Should be kind, it should be honorable. I gave it, in grace. But grace was not extended to me.
But if you are tolerated, and not celebrated. Look and see the signs. Its not in the gift one gives, but in the respect.
You need to see what people really mean, by their actions. Not so much their words. But their actions. Silence is not always golden, my friend.
And if you are an opened book, like I am. You expect someone to be honest, and opened with you. Respect yourself, and reject anybody who will not respect you. Anyone who tries to control you, by that is using manipulation. And the KJV scriptures talk about that, as being like witchcraft. Nope walk away.
Remember its not just about forgiving. Its about knowing who you are in Christ. He did not call us to become door mats, or someones stepping stone. Yes, forgive so the poison, will not penetrate you. But respect yourself enough, to walk away. Know who you are in Christ. Put on your armor of God, and walk away. Quench those fiery darts, by His love.
I hope this helps someone.
Blessings, and love,
REPENTANCE IS THE GREATEST WEAPON AGAINST THE ENEMY……By Elena Ramirez
I truly believe, that REPENTANCE is one of the greatest gifts God gives us. A tool, to not neglect. It is the greatest weapon against the enemy. It cleans the slate. It makes us humble. It stops the penalty of sin, that the enemy uses against us, to have a legal right to attack us.
And its all because of what Christ did on the cross for us. Don’t forget about this gift. Don’t neglect what Christ did on the cross, and yes, even after you accepted Christ as Lord and savior.
Repentance, will ensure your Salvation. I believe in it daily. Like an apple a day, keeps the doctor away. Repentance, will keep your Salvation in tact. We all sin, folks, we all come short of the glory of God. Thats King James scriptural.
The blood of Jesus, will not cover you, if you sin. You will have to start all over. Sin, will separate you from God. So repent.
The enemy always looks for a way to deceive us. But again, the fear of God will bring us to repent. To stay right in the sight of Christ.
Please remember Repentance, when you pray:
NOW I REJOICE, NOT THAT YE WERE MADE SORRY, BUT THAT YE SORROWED TO REPENTANCE: FOR YE WERE MADE SORRY AFTER A GODLY MANNER, THAT YE MIGHT RECEIVE DAMAGE BY US IN NOTHING.
FOR GODLY SORROW WORKETH REPENTANCE TO SALVATION, NOT TO BE REPENTED OF: BUT THE SORROW OF THE WORLD WORKETH DEATH.
FOR BEHOLD THIS SELFSAME THING, THAT YE SORROWED AFTER A GODLY SORT, WHAT CAREFULNESS IT WROUGHT IN YOU, YEA, WHAT CLEARING OF YOURSELVES, YEA, WHAT INDIGNATION, YEA, WHAT FEAR, YEA, WHAT VEHEMENT DESIRE, YEA, WHAT ZEAL, YEA, WHAT REVENGE! IN ALL THINGS YE HAVE APPROVED YOURSELVES TO BE CLEAR IN THIS MATTER.
II CORINTHIANS 7:9-11 KJV.
Blessings, and love,
FREEDOM OF SPEECH DO YOU USE IT OR ABUSE IT? By Elena Ramirez
I am grateful to God for our freedoms, here, in the United States. Many are using that right, even now with our new President. Donald J. Trump. To protest, and express how they feel. But they cross a line, when they riot.
I do not agree with many of these views. Because they are not my core values, but I do respect freedom of speech. But what I see, is many hide behind their computer, or even publicly say, and do things with freedom of speech that makes me cringe. They abuse it.
So lately, I don’t know, I have been seeing a lot of abuse. By many. And I guess it even concerns me, when I see a brother or a sister, in Christ abuse it.
People, I love.
Look, God gives us each a conscience. But maybe you will just consider what I am about to say as love. Maybe a guideline to help you.
But let me ask you a few questions…
Is what your sharing, is it truth?
Is it a lie?
Is it love?
Or is it hate?
Is it mean spirited?
Is it something, that will bring understanding?
Is it something, that is not a bad example for others to learn from? Hmmm.
Is it something that respects?
Is it something that disrespects?
Does it bring unity to us as Americans, and yes even people of other races, creeds, religions etc.
Or does it set out to cause division?
Are you promoting life? Or are you promoting something that hurts life? And takes it away…..
Is your agenda, Gods agenda?
All of these things are just things we can miss. I know, I probably do. And for that I repent to God. We need to find the balance. I am not your conscience. You are. I know, myself, I have erred….
But I also know…..
If God is your savior, you know, He knows your thoughts…..
But there are things, I just shake my head at, because its as if the person, is not really thinking…..
For, when I see a brother or a sister, playing with someones emotions. And they put out something, that may make ME sympathize with them, and even bring out outrage, or anger, because they were hurt, or insulted, and then THEY say;
“Hey I was just playing with you” I was pulling your leg.
I look at that as very immature.
Its a spirit, you are releasing that is a lie, and then you call it a joke. It harms your spirit, because you are practicing lying….
You have to look at the fruit of it, and what it gives, and what it does for you. And yes even others.
I don’t trust lies, or liars, and when I see someone who I trusted use that kind of illustration, to make me think different. Or to play with my emotions. I do, no longer, trust the integrity of that person.
Its like the analogy of the little boy, who cried wolf. Making people believe him, but when they saw the lie, they stopped believing him. But the sad thing happened, the wolf really did appear. No one believed him, when he truly spoke the truth….
Look, I want to be very general about this. But lets remember.
Freedom of speech is a gift. Its something we need to honor, and protect. It should not be used, to incite, evil, or violence, or anything that goes against what Christ taught us in love. The report, should bring light, not darkness, to ourselves or others.
Yes, and truth does not always means it won’t hurt. It will…
But, use love if your going to bring truth to it. Look, I am a warrior, but even God teaches warriors to be diplomatic.
I take to God what my KJV Says, and I don’t want to just pick and choose, for my purposes.
Just food for thought, this morning. Freedom of speech…do you use it, or abuse it?
FINALLY BRETHREN, WHATSOEVER THINGS ARE TRUE, WHATSOEVER THINGS ARE HONEST, WHATSOEVER THINGS ARE JUST, WHATSOEVER THINGS ARE PURE, WHATSOEVER THINGS ARE LOVELY, WHATSOEVER THINGS ARE OF GOOD REPORT, IF THERE BE ANY VIRTUE, AND IF THERE BE ANY PRAISE THINK ON THESE THINGS…..THESE THINGS WHICH YE HAVE BOTH LEARNED AND RECEIVED, AND HEARD, AND SEEN IN ME DO: AND THE GOD OF PEACE SHALL BE WITH YOU. PHILIPPIANS 4:8-9. KJV.
I just realize if we are going to use our voices, we really need to stop, and think, and be responsible.
Accountable to God and others. In love… I never want to abuse this gift.
Blessings in Christ, Elena Ramirez