REMEMBER THE LOVE THE GOOD TIMES TO GO ON EVEN IF YOU ARE HURT ~ By Elena Ramirez
Sometimes, people have to speak things over us, by God so we can see it. So, this is what I will do for you, as my husband spoke this over me.
You see, I had a very dear friend, who I loved dearly. And we were friends for over 25 years. I loved this lady dearly, and you know what she loved me. She was a very generous lady, a very kind lady, in Christ. We both were prayer warriors.
But people change, and I suppose I did too. And well the enemy divided us up. I never thought, I would see that day, but it did happen.
And I won’t go into all the details, but when respect is not given or received, or when one is rejected, well one walks away. I did. Maybe I misunderstood, but since she would not clarify it, thats what I interpreted.
Anyway, long story short, its been over a month. Since we have talked. And I don’t expect her or me to budge in this. Its not that I have pride, but I know when I have done all I can and so, I know I could not add anything more.
But I found myself getting bitter about it, angry, yes I told her I forgave, and I do. But sometimes, you can war within yourself in these matters. I did.
Last night my husband and I were briefly talking about it. And I said, I just feel indifferent now. Not that I don’t care, because I do, but I just am disappointed.
He told me, you know, you need to just let it go. You outgrew each other, and just remember the good in her, she is a good person, and for what it was worth, she blessed you, you blessed her, and now its done. Its over.
Something about his words, ministered to me. I went to sleep finally at peace about it. I prayed God bless her. She is a very kind, and generous person, and she made me laugh, and we were good friends, but sometimes, things change.
People outgrow each other, for different reasons. I suppose she outgrew me, and not that I outgrew her, because I accepted her as she was.
But I accept her choices now, and I RESPECT, her reasons. Even though I do not understand. I can go on.
Perhaps, you struggle, with someone, from your past. Someone you love. A friendship, or even a love. Remember the love, the kindness, the friendship, and don’t demonize them, or hate them, but just release them, with the love, the good that bound you.
See you have to make sure poison, of unforgiveness does not affect you. You have to make sure you are doing your part according to Christ. I cannot control the situation, but I can control how I react to it. I release her in Christ, because she was a gift.
There is a saying, if you love someone, let them go, and if they are yours they will return. I love my friend, enough to walk away, and let her go. I don’t seek to return, to her, nor do I think she seeks to return to me. It is what it is. But I accept it now, with forgiveness in my heart.
But I have peace, and thank God for the times, we were friends, it nurtured me, and I rejoice in the gift of what it was then. It was a gift.
But some gifts, are returned to the sender. No matter what the heart felt intention was. If it was not true, it will show itself. See gifts are just something that is icing on the cake.
But if the sentiment, does not follow up with respect it does not prove itself.
Oh well. God bless your day.
By Elena Ramirez