Sometimes, people have to speak things over us, by God so we can see it. So, this is what I will do for you, as my husband spoke this over me.

You see, I had a very dear friend, who I loved dearly. And we were friends for over 25 years. I loved this lady dearly, and you know what she loved me. She was a very generous lady, a very kind lady, in Christ. We both were prayer warriors.

But people change, and I suppose I did too. And well the enemy divided us up. I never thought, I would see that day, but it did happen.

And I won’t go into all the details, but when respect is not given or received, or when one is rejected, well one walks away. I did. Maybe I misunderstood, but since she would not clarify it, thats what I interpreted.

Anyway, long story short, its been over a month. Since we have talked. And I don’t expect her or me to budge in this. Its not that I have pride, but I know when I have done all I can and so, I know I could not add anything more.

But I found myself getting bitter about it, angry, yes I told her I forgave, and I do. But sometimes, you can war within yourself in these matters. I did.

Last night my husband and I were briefly talking about it. And I said, I just feel indifferent now. Not that I don’t care, because I do, but I just am disappointed.

He told me, you know, you need to just let it go. You outgrew each other, and just remember the good in her, she is a good person, and for what it was worth, she blessed you, you blessed her, and now its done. Its over.

Something about his words, ministered to me. I went to sleep finally at peace about it. I prayed God bless her. She is a very kind, and generous person, and she made me laugh, and we were good friends, but sometimes, things change.

People outgrow each other, for different reasons. I suppose she outgrew me, and not that I outgrew her, because I accepted her as she was.

But I accept her choices now, and I RESPECT, her reasons. Even though I do not understand. I can go on.

Perhaps, you struggle, with someone, from your past. Someone you love. A friendship, or even a love. Remember the love, the kindness, the friendship, and don’t demonize them, or hate them, but just release them, with the love, the good that bound you.

See you have to make sure poison, of unforgiveness does not affect you. You have to make sure you are doing your part according to Christ. I cannot control the situation, but I can control how I react to it. I release her in Christ, because she was a gift.

There is a saying, if you love someone, let them go, and if they are yours they will return. I love my friend, enough to walk away, and let her go. I don’t seek to return, to her, nor do I think she seeks to return to me. It is what it is. But I accept it now, with forgiveness in my heart.

But I have peace, and thank God for the times, we were friends, it nurtured me, and I rejoice in the gift of what it was then. It was a gift.

But some gifts, are returned to the sender. No matter what the heart felt intention was. If it was not true, it will show itself. See gifts are just something that is icing on the cake.

But if the sentiment, does not follow up with respect it does not prove itself.

Oh well. God bless your day.

By Elena Ramirez





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Getting to the root of things…and I guess I am thinking of bitterness, unforgiveness or even hate.  

I am in the garden this morning, and I have a small patch of land that has been invaded by this plant that has taken over the ground so nothing else can grow. And I just thought….

You know there are things that can take root in our spirits, and they block the blessings. They block our growth, they block our spiritual fruits, from coming forth. And I just thought of my own life.

I thought, of how I have had so many spiritual battles. So many physical fights. So many times, I have had to try and defend myself, because of some of the enemies I have had. Even friends, who have loved me, but abandoned me, and you know what this root is symbolic.

Its symbolic, to the point, where I don’t care any more, whether, or not, some have loved me or not. Or they said they were my friend, but they did not prove it. I have a sensitive soul, and I am very loving. But I realize not all do love me.

And so I release this root, and pull it up, and pray God bless those who have hurt me, who have not been true to me, who do not care about my calling, to serve God, and they show no love or support, or even those who have said they were my friend, but secretly hated me.

I release them.

I release those who were honest enough to not love me, and challenged me. I release everyone!

You see, life, is too short to have a bitter root, in my heart. And you know I have for the most part tried to be forgiving. But sometimes, it has affected me the way some have treated me. Well, I don’t care today.

And I pull that root up, and toss it in the trash where it belongs.  I also though repent, and humble myself in the sight of God.  Asking God to take it away from me.  

So the other places of my heart can produce fruit, and I plant seeds of love, and hope, and holiness, from God.

So to each their own, I know with wisdom, we all deal with something or someone in one way or another. But why should we allow them space in our hearts, when they don’t care?

I do not want to reap hate, or discouragement from anybody any more. So there. Its gone, in the trash!

And in its place is a sense of the beauty of who God is to me, and there is no room there now for anything else.

My thought for the day…..


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Funny thing about life, things don’t always stay the same way. Sure you might be optimistic, one moment but the next day you don’t feel that joy, or constant level of being secure, or confident, or even sure of whats next.

But God made us to depend on Him. And without Him, it just does not work. I know it in my life.

Thats the way God made us. And sometimes, you think you learned a lesson in life, and then you go and do the same dumb thing over again. That could be sin, or it could be just that you take for granted grace, that is extended to you. And God needs to correct you.

The wonderful thing is, God has made a way through Jesus Christ. HE IS THE WAY, THE TRUTH, AND LIFE. John 14:6. And sometimes, when your not sure of the path, or the lessons of life, you need THERAPY.

Therapy, that comes from Gods Holy word. The King James Bible. I love Gods holy word, just for that. No other word will do, because they are not holy.

I cannot even count the times, I have found an answer, or a sense of God speaking to me, to counsel me, or to show me, my sins, or mistakes, in His Holy word, my King James bible.

There are wonders, and secrets, that can get you back on the right track, so you can fulfill your journey. For by His stripes we are healed. Isaiah 53:5. And that includes, the mind, the soul, the spirit, the body……

You see none of us are righteous, none of us. We all need God. But it is His way. Not ours, that works.  Just ask Him…..


ROMANS 3:10.


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There is a danger to being obsessed with people.  And my goodness, I feel such a strong stirring in my heart to write this.  I am not sure who it is for, or meant to address, but I will write obedient, as the Holy Spirit prompts me. 

Again, I do not know who this is meant for.  All my friends, and acquaintances, seem to have a healthy grasp on this.  But for whoever it is meant for, I pray you take it to heart.  

What makes someone obsessed over someone else?  Hmmm.  Well I want to list a few scenarios, and then add the Lords thoughts through my thoughts to it.

This could be a spoken obsession, or an obsession, in the mind.  

But if it is in the mind, it is part of the spirit.  And just a thought but is the spirit from God, or the devil, in its contribution to what you think?  You need to see that.

When it is a spoken obsession, it could be because you admire someone and have told them that.  It could be that they have rejected you, and so you feel wounded.  It could be from an old lover, a friend, or even an enemy.  So you think about it, but you think and think, and think about it.  Your mind is constantly on that person, and it is unhealthy.    

You admire them so greatly, or may even hate them so much in an unhealthy way you could be in danger of “obsessing” to the point, that you cannot handle rejection.  Or wanting even to reject them.  And you could do something you regret.  

You need to see it now.    

It could be from someone you know, or someone you see like on television, etc.  So you may even stalk them or try to get their attention etc.

When it is an obsession in the mind, you constantly think of them, even though they do not know, and your behavior changes.  Where you may try to get their attention even though you do not exist to them, you want to be seen, you want to compete, you want to let them know, you are there.  

You want their attention as much as you have given “thought” to them.  

Friend, do you sense how unhealthy this is?  Maybe you think about someone constantly, and they could care less?  

I can only relate this to my own experiences, and I want to share something personal, so maybe it can help someone.  

But years ago, I met a man.  A very handsome man, and I fell so in love with this man.  He never courted me, he frankly was not interested, yet, I began this “obsession” and would think of him, and dream of him, and told him, I loved him.  I told him, no one else could love him like I could.  

Which at that time, I thought was true.  But he did not care, and in fact, he rejected me, and hurt me, so bad, I thought I would die.  

I did not, praise God.  

You see, I met my husband, and I have had a very fruitful marriage.  A holy marriage, where we made Christ first, and where His spirit, has brought us together in holy matrimony.

Which is why even here, if I could briefly put it in words, it is unhealthy to have sex with someone, and link on to that spiritual bondage, in a soul tie.  Because it is sin.  

Being obsessed with other people is sin, in Gods eyes.  They become an idol.  And well if you know God, you know He is a jealous God, and this is just one more principle to consider in pleasing Him, and having a healthy spirit.  

Is your obsession, turning that person into an idol?  Hmmm.    

I had put so much energy into this person, for such a long time, it just was not healthy for myself.  But I finally saw, that it was never going to happen, and I let go.  

That was the healthiest thing I could do for myself.  I have been careful since then not to give a lot of attention to anyone in the sense, where I could be in a position to be rejected, or to obsess with them, and have unhealthy expectations.  

You know what?  Sometimes we think people are the prize.  But really if we know who we were in Christ and what we can do, with Christ as the prize, we are in heritage of our Lord through Christ, as sons and daughters of our Lord, with a holy heritage.  

We are royalty in Christ, and royalty does not have to beg for people to love us, or where we have to obsess about them.  Don’t give yourself away.  You are worth more then you know.

Don’t try and manipulate a situation with your obsession.  Did you know that is like witchcraft in the eyes of God?     

Do you see where I am going with this?  Friends, all I know, that God is a jealous God, and if we want to be healthy in our own spirits, we have to learn to give Him all of our attention in the sense, that we do not lose our “balance” in this.  

This is why probably some people keep going back to the same type of people, in relationships.  Because this is the pattern they have established, not knowing the difference.  Oh but with Christ, what a beautiful difference and heritage we can have.  This is why obedience to God, can lead to other blessings, yes including love, but ensuring our salvation first.    

Where we find a good place yes to love people, but where we reserve a place first for Christ, and then yes for ourselves.  Not giving into unhealthy obsessions, where first of all people who see that, can use that to hurt you.  Where they would take advantage of you.  Use you.  Nobody wants to be used, and not even God.  Like I said, He is not an ATM machine.  

We have to find respect for our own self, to yes love, but not to obsess, or to become someone’s door mat, or find we are being rejected by people.  If they have rejected you, respect that, and let it go.

And here is a thought, obsessing with jealousy?  Don’t do that.  You are worth more then you think.  And God is jealous for you.    

Seriously, it goes back to when you are young, and trying to make friends for example.  I learned the harder I tried to be friends sometimes with people, it turned them off.  

No one likes to be intruded on, by someones advances, and when you like people, and want to be friends, it should be mutual.  Being a pest etc.  This is why obsessing, especially in the mind with people, and just creating thoughts about them is not healthy as well.  For there is no foundation in the friendship.  

So I reserve to give myself some dignity, in not over doing it, in my efforts.   

Friend, again, I do not know who you are, but whatever anyone has done, or not done, you need to let it go.  You need to quit thinking about that  person, obsessing about them, or even following them, on social media, or where ever.  

Let the obsession go, you may be lonely.  God understands this, but you need to see the direction of your obsession, and give it to God to help you let go.  He can fill that void.  That place in your heart that you are spending so much time belongs to God.  And only God.  

I hope this helps you, whoever you are.  Let go and give it to God, be free from obsession. People cannot fill that only God can.   

For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would. But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law. Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, Idolatry, witchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies, Envyings, murders, drunkenness, revellings, and such like: of the which I tell you before, as I have also told you in time past, that they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law. And they that are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts.

Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another. (Galatians 5:17-24, 26 KJV)  

I sense Obsessing about others is in this list.  Where the spirit struggles with the flesh. Let it go, give it to Christ.  Share this link if you think it could help someone.   


Blessings, and love, Elena Ramirez  


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Friendship….what does it mean to you? There are some people we call friends, but do we know them, truly?

I mean, we ask to be friends here, on FB, Twitter and other Social media outlets and some folks we know, and some we do not know. But what is our expectation? Do we want to build true friendships? Or just collect people?

Or if we are Christians, do we want to find people, who believe like we do? So we can call on them to pray? Or we can be there for them to pray for them? Or to chat now and then because as Christians we should relate to each other.

Every one has their reason to be a friend or not to be a friend. And I know, myself, I do cherish you folks. And yes, there are some of you, that I love so dearly. Even though, we have never met….

But, I have unfriended people myself, or blocked them because of differences, in the way one relates as well. Sometimes, you know people you have called them friends, and yet something happens, and it changes everything. And sadly some friendships have been broken.

I have learned some things here, about myself, and how important it is to be friends with Christ first. Things that He expects in friendship is loyalty, being humble, being kind, overlooking differences.

Forgiving….Yet, He is my savior, so there is more that I have to look at to honor Him. So obedience has to come into the foundation to always think and be as He is in love.

And because of that….I think one thing I have learned if someone is a Christian, we are supposed to be brothers and sisters. No, ifs, buts or maybe. And as brothers and sisters we are called to love one another. This is what God commanded us.

Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.  This is the first and great commandment.  And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thy self.  On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.  Matthew 22:37-40

True friendships though, need a foundation.  They need to have something in common.  And if one person does not work at the friendship and the other one does, wow….what a let down.  Communication is important, but lets be honest, sometimes we cannot always communicate.  So grace must be extended.

But it is kind of a drag, when you work at the friendship, and the other person does not.  It seems to be one sided.  And I admit, I get weary, when I don’t see progress.  Or they do not appreciate me, or my attempts.  In friendship.  I am not trying to brag, but I think I am a good friend, because of Christ.  I think I can bless a friend.  I have a lot of love, but when it is not appreciated, I learn to put a shield on my heart.  

I have learned to choose Christ, over friends.  When I saw the way they truly thought, and learned that they did not agree in faith with me, well I have walked away.  After I saw their true colors.  It hurt me, as it may have that person, but some influences are not good.  And we have to choose Christ first.  I have to choose His ways, He is my greatest friend.  

We need to develop friendships, that are based on Christ.  Christ was a friend to all, but his closest friends were His disciples.  Yet there was Judas, and Judas betrayed Christ.  Oh those feelings of betrayal, and pain, we get when we trust people, and they let us down.

We need to be mature, we need to give someone respect, we need to see even if we are right, that it is better to be kind, then to reject them.  And there are times, we don’t know, so we pray.

I have seen a few articles that touch base on this, and the affects of being unfriended, or rejected in a social media forum.  And people do get wounded.  So even though we are behind our computers, we need to think about that other person.  But more then anything, I want God to be pleased by the way I react or communicate with someone, in these forums.  As a friend….

Well, anyway, I don’t know why or how to always understand….but I pray for wisdom in my friendships.  I am learning, it is a process, so lets all be kind to one another, as we grow together with Christ.

Just sharing right now…..I love you my friends.  I want to help you.  I want to help others by my writings.  I don’t want to point fingers, because hey it could be pointed back at me.

But I really do want to be a true friend in Christ.

I may be wearing my heart on my sleeve right now, but I long for true friends.  Friends who care, and friends who are loyal, and honest, but care about my feelings, even if I am wrong.  But they will use discretion to talk.  I long for true Christian friends, who are true in Christ.  

But don’t just unfriend me, or reject me.  That is the most saddest feeling to have a friend walk away, and you don’t know why.  Especially if that friend was a Christian.  I think the most wounded feeling I have ever had is to be rejected by people I loved, and called them either a brother or sister in Christ.  And it has happened to me, and it broke my heart, for a long time. Because I loved these people.  

To be rejected by them goes back to how I imagine Christ must have felt by Judas.

At least if I do walk away, I will tell you why.  I hope to anyway.

Just a thought about friendship in Christ.  Thank you Priscilla, for being witness in the spirit, to bring this post out.  To ask me to write about friendship.

I wrote it earlier, but felt it was too much at the moment, but God knows…

With love, Elena Ramirez

Lord, help me to be the kind of friend you want me to be in Christ.  Thank you Lord.  You are my greatest friend, and you never unfriend me.  In fact, you search for me.  And teach me.  As I search for you.  I want to feel like you feel.  And honor your feelings, as my greatest friend.  In whatever situation, Lord there is no greater friend then you.  In Jesus name, Amen

A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity…..Proverbs 17:17 

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Disclaimer:  Reader Please Note,  Do this, or do not do this at your own risk.  These are my thoughts, but you make your own decision.  My only motive and goal, is to bring hope to the hopeless, to those who have been disrespected.  Or feel they have no options.  Your not helpless!  Pray about it, and ask God.  He will guide you.  

September 2, 2012.

Curses, I have seen enough of them in my life, in my families lives, and others.  I believe God has given me discernment, and understanding, as to how they can happen.  But this post, is not about that, in the sense, that even though, I could write about them.  I will not.  There are some things, one may understand the mystery of, but you don’t give it away.  Especially, in a public forum like this.  No, if the right publisher or the resources came, yes, I would publish my writings on this.

But, I want to talk about demanding respect, and yes apologies, to break the curses.  In your own life.  So you can be healed.  So you can grow.  So you can have the confidence, that only Christ can give.  So, I give this away, from my heart, if it will help anyone.  To grow, to change, to be the person, they should be.

There are times, when you should demand respect, and an apology, and then there are times when you don’t you let grace, come in.  And you extend it, as Christ would.  But know this, Christ was not a pushover.  He told you truth.  Sometimes, even over throwing tables, in anger, but it was truth.  He was not a pushover!

Some people, will see your niceness, and consider it a weakness.  They will challenge you, they will try to make themselves superior over you.  Yes we are to treat people equally, but you need to be on guard.  Because they do not walk in love.   You need to be on guard to know this.  To stand on your own merit, in Christ.  But to be aware, that some people are not nice, and will take advantage of you, if you let them.  Don’t let them.  Respect yourself!

I consider myself, a nice person, a very nice person.  I believe I have the heart of Christ.  I am compassionate, I am caring, for my brothers and sisters, for the world.  For even helpless, little animals, that are abused.  I care that people, grow.  That they have a sense of who they can be in Christ.  For it is Christ that makes all the difference in a persons life.  He miraculously, changes us, to be like Him.  In love.

But it takes an awareness, it takes, obedience.  I have learned to be humble.  I have learned, from my experiences, why it is so important to have a flexible spirit in the Lord.  So, He can teach me.  So, I can be used by Him.  I am always aware of the characteristics of the devil.  And pride, is an ugly thing.  It blocks love.  It blocks our blessings.  But I am more aware of who Christ is, and who I can be in Christ.  The greatest of love, comes from Him.  His holiness.  Thats where the victory is!

So, I write this, not to puff myself up.  Not to say its me, but to give glory to God.  For, no, it is the Lord, who has taught me, and yes shaped me, from even the experiences, I have had, where people did not respect me. From even fights from my childhood.  Knowing, how cruel people can be.  Nor did they care, if they wounded me, and left me to die spiritually.  Even from family.

But it is Christ, who has taught me to fight.  And fight a good fight of faith. Not like the world.  Not like the devil.  But in prayer, on my knees, walking in love.  Walking in His truth.  This is how I have now learned to fight.  Knowing I do not fight flesh and blood, but principalities in high places.  Ephesians 6:12.  So I put on the armor of God.  To withstand in the evil day.  You know the Lord, is gracious, He is kind, He is merciful, in things, but in His ways, this is what, I also hope to fashion myself after.

But lets get one thing straight right away.  God is not mocked.  God, may let you think you have gotten away with something, but He will have His final say.  So, I see how my Lord is in this.  I know, I sin, I come short of His glory.  But, I see, the favor, and blessings, of integrity, and honor, when you respect yourself.  In Christ.  And for the record, because God is not mocked, if you are obedient to God, He will defend you, when you are mocked.  Because you are His servant.  People have no idea, the curses that brings when you come against a servant of God.

If we only judged ourselves……but if people do not have that discernment to apologize, and to treat you kindly. It is your responsibility, to demand respect and apologies.  You are not meant to be someones punching board.  Or someones stepping mat.  With words or with physical abuse.  There are some people, who will not give you that respect, if you demand it.  So be aware of it, even now as I write.  But those people, are not worth your company, or your love.  So let them go.  Life is too short, to keep trying to make a wrong right.  Or to break the curse in them.

There will be a time, when you see, that nothing you can do, stops this.  That you have done all you can.  By praying etc.  You tell me even now; Elena you have no idea.  My demanding respect, will not change this.  Then get away!  God will make a way.  Even here I implore you, be safe.  Do not return evil for evil.  Do not get into unforgiveness, or even revenge.  Get away from the devil.  Get away from the traps, for your own good, and peace of mind.

Maybe you cannot even demand apologies.  Maybe this is a situation, where someone is in authority over you.  So you have to keep your cool.  But you can demand for yourself, a better way of doing things.  Through Christ.  God will provide.  But do not stay in a place, where even your meager requests are not honored.  Or where there is abuse.  No one should have to go through this.  Just be wise!  Pray!

Have not I commanded thee?  Be strong, and of good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed:  for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever, thou goest.  Joshua 1:9

You need to break the curse in yourself, and in your own life.  For your own well being, for your peace.  For your self-esteem.  For your strength, that only Christ can give that.  For you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.  The only way, to do that is by Love.  It takes love, Gods love to strengthen you, to recognize, when people do not honor you, or respect you.  If you see the key signals, like avoidance, defiance, judgement, etc.  These people do not love you.

You are hoping, against hope, that they would honor you.  But if you do not train people, to respect you.  They won’t.  You do not react as they do.  With words, with vengeance, or with returning evil for evil.  No you, speak words, that edify yourself, that person, and more then anything that brings glory to God.  You speak Gods word, for He says your the head, and not the tail, as you obey Him.  He says you can do all things through Him for He strengthens you.  He tells you, that you will be hated.  But that He has overcome the world.  And so can you.

But do this, knowing this word.  From God.  He that reproveth a scorner, getteth to himself shame:  and he that rebuketh a wicked man getteth himself a blot.  Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee:  rebuke a wiseman and he will love thee.  Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser, teach a just man and he will increase in learning. Proverbs 9:7-9.  

So who are you dealing with?  Someone wise, who honors God, or someone who is just rambling.  Who is a scorner.  Look at the clues.  Proceed with caution….

He has so many promises, but you have to find them in His Holy word, and again I interject, look at the King James Bible for the powerful words, that shows you who you are, and how to live life in Him.  He sent His word to heal us, and deliver us from destruction.  Psalm 107:20 (paraphrasing)

Someone recently told me that words are just words.  And that just told me, how little this person knew.  For we have power, of life and death in our tongue.  Proverbs 18:21. Read it from the King James version. Even though, they tried to puff themselves, in pride at me.  When I started recognizing that spirit, that was not humble, not considerate of me.  I knew I only had one option, and that was demand an apology, and respect.  I was not going to get into the curse, of unforgiveness.  Or to continue in an argument, that really was to be honest, not making any sense.  It was so trivial.

And I will say this even here.  Because the Lord commands me, to forgive others I do so automatically.  I do so with a heart to please my Lord, because He has forgiven me of my sins.  I know the difference.  With forgiveness, and without it.  And I would rather have it, so I ask God for it.  With a humble heart even daily.  I pray to keep my heart soft and tender.  So, I have forgiven everyone, who has hurt me, offended me, treated me shabbily, and who has not for the record, apologized to me.  This has healed me, and comforted me, so much, that I do not have a root of bitterness.  But you have to nip it, at the seed.

But I do not have to accept disrespect, or defiance.  Rudeness, rude words, or someone who is totally inconsiderate to me.  Thats not extending grace, that is giving someone permission to treat you rude over and over again, unless you break that cycle.

You have to recognize, and respect yourself, to demand that respect, and that apology.  I mentioned, in my last post, about sending love, breaking curses, making amends with family.  Because you only get one family.  But, I mentioned, my own immediate family, with God, as our foundation, and my husband and son.  Well one thing, that works for us, is we demand apologies, if that person offends.  If that person, in our family, says something, that is mean, or cruel, or insensitive.

We stop, we say “Hey, I want an apology.”  And that family person, stops, recognizes the injustice of it, and yes does apologize.  This is one reason, why we have unity.  It is called respect.  It does not mean, that the other person, is right or wrong.  But when you say something, you are held accountable.

They are not just words.  You cannot sling words, without, knowing this comes from the abundance of your heart.  And what is ruling your heart, God or the devil?  Do you want to really wound others with words, when you can control them, for your own good?

So when this happens, you have to stand your ground.  You have to break the curses.  This may be hard, for someone, but I would rather, respect myself, and respect who I am in Christ, then to continue, not growing, or not changing to who I should be in Christ.  So I have learned this.

People will treat you, the way you let them treat you.  Isn’t it time to break the curses in your own life?  You do it with Gods love.  For him, for yourself, and for others.  You know with discernment, the difference.  Christ sacrificed for you, on the cross, so you could see who you can be in Him.  To break curses.

I recommend, that you do write out your stipulations.  Put it on paper, on the computer, on someones e-mail etc.  And format, and make it a contract, that these things must be done.  Write them a letter.  Mail it!  Explain, why you want an apology.  Don’t just throw it out there, if someone, is just mocking you and disrespecting you anyway.  Make sure, they know you are serious.  Some will just erase your thoughts anyway, but if you can make sure they do read it, so send it in various ways.  Send the message, that you will not be treated shabby, and you do not appreciate defiance, and disrespect.  Tell them!

Write it out, write out your stipulations.  So they can even see later, the error, of their ways.  This is not judging them.  This is discerning, when people are not being who they should be as well in Christ.  This is telling them, enough.  This is what you have done.  I am communicating this, because it is wrong.  I will not argue with you back and forth.  These are my standards, respect them, or leave me alone.  Like I said, don’t be surprised if they do leave you alone.

But at least you have stopped the curse.  You have rebuked the devil, in the name of Jesus.  You have stopped the curse of someones mean, and cruel words.  You have reversed the curse!  Don’t you dare, let them tell you something that is so against who you are in Christ, that belittles you!  Tell them no, this is not true.  I am a child of God!  You then have gained ground.  You have stood still, and let the Lord fight the battle.  For the battle is the Lords…..

Pray for these people.  Pray the best for them.  For you see, that someone hurt them, and they did the only thing they knew.  To protect themselves.  They learned the sin of offending.  No one apologized to them.  They do not know how.  They are defiant, and disrespectful.  But…..Don’t be like them.  Break the cycle, break the curse.  Always be careful.  For we don’t know how people will react.  But you can protect yourself.  And gain, self-esteem.  Again forgive, but do not get caught up in the curse of this.  Grow in Christ, and His love.

And with this last thought, as I conclude.  Demanding respect does not always mean you are “demanding.”  In asking for an apology. It could also be saying, I love you, I am being firm in this, because I want God to bless you too.  Knowing, God lifts the humble, but turns from the proud.  If you see this, and have a change of heart, then your on the way, to the blessings….

Likewise ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder.  Yea all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility;  for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble.  Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time.  I Peter 5:5-6

 Blessings, in Christ, Just my Thoughts, Elena Ramirez

Father, I thank you, I praise you, I exalt you.  I honor you.  I pray, for any thought, or any word, that I say, be brought to the obedience of Christ.  I pray, to know who I am in Christ.  Lord, I do want to always have a forgiving heart.  But I see you.  I see that you are demanding, for us to obey you.  Your commandments, your authority.  I know in order, to reap blessings, I have to honor and respect others as well.  But I do not have to become someones, stepping stone.  Or used to be a punching bag, because they are frustrated.  Or they do not know how to walk in love.  I thank you for what you have been teaching me, about curses, and breaking them.  I thank you, that you teach me to honor myself, because of Christ.  Not being puffed up, or rude, for love, is not that.  Love is kind, love is considerate.  And even here, I write your words.  To guide me, to guide whoever needs to see this.  Lord send angels to protect.  To comfort.  This could cover so much, and as I write it, someone could see it, and it means something totally different, because of their circumstances, so I want to be careful, but we need you first and foremost.  I pray all who is in need of wisdom in this, would seek you first, and foremost.  Help them!  In Jesus name.  Amen

Charity (love) suffereth long, and is kind, charity (love) envieth not, charity (love) vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easy provoked, thinketh no evil.  Rejoiceth not in iniquity but rejoiceth in the truth.  Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.  Charity (Love) never fails…I Corinthians 13:4-8



Life can be short, or it can be long….God has our lives in His hands.  What are we going to do with it?  Some day the Book of life, will be opened, and will we find our names in the Lambs Book of life?  We never know when life will end.  So we have to try do things right in this time, we are given…..To get right with God in our salvation.  And to get right with people.

For, one never knows.  I am an adult woman, I have been around the block a few times.  But I cherish, the life, God has given me.  I cherish my family.  I cherish my friends.  I cherish, the gifts God has given me.  I have been reflecting even now, how grateful to God I am.  I am thankful, for all my blessings, and right now I just want to get close to God.  I want to praise and worship him, in spirit, and truth.  But one cannot do that, if they are mad at someone or unforgiving.  You can’t it blocks, the love.  And God is love, so we have to do what we have to do, according to His word, to unblock that love.  If something is hindering it.

I have learned a lot, and pray to keep learning.  Maybe that’s why I write.  To sort out my feelings, to bring some perspective, to things, I go through, that I have learned in life.

I am blessed to have my immediate family.  But, I did not always have a sense of family.

I was raised, by my mother.  And I want to say here, before I go any further.  I loved my mother.  I honor her, more then ever.  As being a source of life, God used to bring me in this world.

But….we did not always get along.  I was day, she was night.  Her and my father, were divorced, when I was just a baby.  So, I did not grow up with the unity, of a father and a mother.  Though, my father, was in my life, here and there.

But, I always longed for a family.  And that was not fulfilled, till I was older.  I have a few family relations, not much.  From my father, and my mothers side.

But to be honest, the relationship with them is practically dissolved.  I never got very close to those on my fathers side.  But, on my mothers side, I have tried to keep communication open, with my mothers brothers children.  My cousins.  They have tried to.  I love them.

Recently, I had a bit of a tiff, with one of my cousins.  It was so trivial.  And in many ways, it was not even a tiff.  It was basically a misunderstanding.  No mean words were said.  I believe she forgave me as I forgave her.  But there still was that sense, of a loss of communication.  Yet, things spilled over, that probably should not have.  And I take responsibility for my part.  But people also have to be accountable as well.  In grace, we extend love, and love covers a multitude of sins.  If they cannot be accountable. Because family, is family.  We only get one blood family.  And that through Christ.

But it reminded me, of my past.  It reminded me of my mother, it reminded me, that the devil, wants to destroy families. He wants to break up the love, and the unity in families.  He comes to kill, steal and destroy.  Thats his job, so we have to be on guard.  We have to be aware of his devices, and unforgiving, is something he uses over, any of us who are not aware. He wants to divide family members. Ahhh, but the good news is Christ came to give life, and more abundantly.  So we have a weapon against the enemy.

I never want to see division like that in my family ever again.  By the blood of Jesus.

I thank God my immediate family, is built on the foundation, of Gods love.  He is first as our foundation.  His word, His truth, (KJV) His commandments, His love, etc.  That is what brings our unity.  For the Ramirez family is in unity.  We respect each other.  We honor each other.  I honor my husband as the head of our household.  He honors me as his wife.  We taught this to our son as well.  That family honors one another.  You can have friends, but family is first.

We do not let arguments, or disagreements, get in the way, of the flow of our family.  We forgive.  If we have a disagreement, and we do, sometimes, but we do not let it turn into any kind of resentment.  We do not go away from each other, angry.  And I pray, by the blood of Jesus, we never do.  But we have to be on guard, to situations, like this, where the enemy, wants to dominate.  We have to be on guard, to the deceptiveness of a situation.

But, when I detected this little misunderstanding, with my cousin, which I will not get into all the details…  I sensed, how the enemy, divides.  I love my little cousin.  I know she probably loves me too.  But I had to try and share with her….

But, it just reminded me, that life is not promised to anyone.  And when family, has misunderstandings, and arguments, and they walk away from one another.  Did you know, we are giving place to the devil in that?  We are to submit to God, resist, the devil, and he will flee.  We are to be love, for God is love.

I have heard many stories, being in ministry, about people who have loved each other, and some argument, or whatever happened, and people pass away, but there were regrets.  An argument, something so petty, divided them, from their family members.  I can relate to this.  For I myself, have had regrets in love.  With my mother.

I just wish, I could have given her flowers, while she was alive.  Not when she is dead.  Not with regrets.  And there were plenty believe me.  We never got over that hump.  There was resentment.  But I loved her.  But she is dead and gone…And I wonder if she knew I loved her.  Not knowing, if she ever knew, how much I loved her. It, hurts me even now. As I think about it.  But there was always this sense of a wall.  And I could never reach her.

You know, people have their personalities.  Some are stubborn, some express things differently, but we are to respect one another, and love one another.  I felt sad, after I had this little tiff, with my cousin.  And I said somethings to her, not that I regret.  But that had to be said.  Maybe even because I am older, then her, by many years.  I may have done it, out of my own pain.  But I did it because enough of the devil breaking up our family.  I told her things…Because I love her, and I see how the enemy divides.  I see how he wants to break up families.  I wanted to warn her in love, for us not to get touchy with one another.  But it did not come out well.  I even said some things, that had a deeper sense of my own loss.  My own feelings.

But, the timing…..I believe it was for a reason….Gods reasons.

Have you ever thought, or seen the vision, of your Loved ones all being saved.  Through Jesus Christ?  I do, even as I write this.  I want all of my family, to be in heaven, united, when we meet.  Again…..The devil wants to stop that.  He does not want that!  But if you are saved, you can save another family member.  You can stop the devil.  You just have to believe, in Love.  You just have to believe, that your effort, that your gift of love, will have a domino affect, and save, one family member, and then another.  Your family, can be restored, and thats what I pray for my own family…..

I just pray, we can get back on track and communicate in love, again.  But it will take both of us to work at it.  But it just reminded me.  Of how short life is.  You know flowers are beautiful.  But, if your gonna send me flowers, don’t send them when I am dead.  Send them when I am alive.  And send me a rose bush.  One that is alive, so I can see the love growing.  We have to see that in each other.

And for the record, right now, I am not asking for anybody to send me flowers.  Even from my sweet little cousin.  But do you know what I mean?

Send love, while the time is available to love. Send someone flowers, to be an expression of love.  Send a live plant, in the symbolism, that your love is alive.  Make up with people.  Forgive.  Stop the plan of the devil. Try, don’t give up on love!

We cannot have regrets. If we try to resolve situations.  If we give no place to the enemy.  Then we are doing our part, we are being obedient to God.  We have to see the love in each other.  We have to all keep growing with Christ.  On that vine, that he has called us to be on.  Family is first.  Loyalty to family, should always be a priority.  Family, is blood.  We should never write off a family member.

I implore people here.  Do not have any regrets.  Do what you have to do, to make amends with your family members.  And even friends if thats the case.  But I am more focused here on family.  Because family is blood.  Blood unites us in Christ.  It is symbolic, to the structure.  God is father, then there is mother, and then there is brothers and sisters etc.  We cannot let the devil interfere with the family.  Sometimes, we have to accept each other.  Just the way that person is.  Agree to disagree.  But don’t let the devil steal your families love.  That God intended to grow.

Let go of that pride, that ugly characteristic of the devil!  BEWARE!

Send flowers now, while that person is alive, and send them a rose bush, send life….send them a plant…..with love, so they can see the love growing.  So they can know your love has not stopped growing….

Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way, first be reconciled to thy brother and then come and offer thy gift.  Matthew 5:24. 

And more then anything, so God can see the love.  You don’t want regrets, when you, yourself, has to stand before God.  Send the love now….send life.  Send Christ with that plant, for He has come to give us all life, and life abundantly now!

For it really does not matter who was right or wrong.  It does not matter, what the problem was.  You have to be mature in Christ.  In the sense, that if you let God take care of it, by giving Love, to that person, He will take care of it.  That which the devil intended for evil.  God will turn it around and make it good, and right!

Blessings, and love,

Just my thoughts….

Elena Ramirez


Father, I praise you, I love you, I thank you abba Father, that you are my Lord.  That you have a plan, even from years ago, and this photo was taken by my baby cousin.  Lord, I pray, just restore ALL of my family.  To you.  To each other.  I pray, forgiveness, and grace would be extended. I pray, that we would learn how to bind the enemy, by extending love.  It might not even be appreciated at first.  But it plants a seed.  It grows.  It can grow, but it must be”alive” from you, by Christ.  It is symbolic, that it must be something alive, to express, the love now.  Not later, no regrets.  I bind regrets.  From my own family.  Restore all of my family.  And I extend this rose, without thorns.  For the thorns, were received in your crown my Lord Jesus, and you break the curse.  Thank you Lord Jesus, thank you for your sacrifice.  To save me, to save my family.  In Jesus name.  Amen