WHEN TRUST IS GONE YOU DECIDE TO WALK ALONE ~ By Christian Author Elena Ramirez


IMG_2903.jpegWhen trust is gone, it is hard to gain back.  And sometimes you decide to walk alone.  I admit, I am a wounded soul.  In some ways.  Yet, I am the strongest I can be in Christ, and I have peace, and hope.  Right now. Which in some ways to me, in the natural it makes no sense.  But in the spiritual, it does.

And I pray to God not to wound anybody in return.  But I think I have.  In fact I know I have.  Because I am not open for communication.  Any more. I have gone silent. Because I won’t give in, and open myself to be hurt again, by those who think I am fair game.

IT IS BETTER TO TRUST IN THE LORD THAN TO PUT CONFIDENCE IN MAN.  PSALMS 118:8  KJV. 

And for that, I am so very sorry.  Especially if you have had a change of heart about me, and see I was true.  But it is too late now.  The damage is done.

I truly love and wish those that I have severed relationships with. The very best.  To  live happily ever.  But I just cannot pretend, I have not been wounded.  So, I am also alienating myself, from others.

For, to be honest, my trust level in folks right now is gone.  People, may say things to me, now, and I cannot just shake it off.  I used to, I gave them the benefit of the doubt.  Extended grace.

THE LORD REDEEMETH THE SOUL OF HIS SERVANTS:  AND NONE OF THEM THAT TRUST IN HIM SHALL BE DESOLATE.  PSALMS 34:22 KJV. 

But sometimes, when things happen lately.  I don’t react.  Right away.  But a seed gets planted, and then it grows, and I realize that some folks just don’t see the error of their ways either.  Its like you write someone a letter, and they throw it away.  Or they gave you the silent treatment….

But you gave grace.  And you wonder, if you cannot communicate, what kind of friendship is that? But you realize that, after giving grace.  You realize that, after a time of reflection.  The seed grew.

It sometimes turns into a bad seed.  And they put it on another person…I don’t want to do that, because I understand hurt people, hurt others, and for that I think its best to walk alone.

So, I find myself wanting to just let go, and walk alone, with Christ, and my immediate family.IMG_4255

I wish I did not have this kind of a testimony, to be writing about.  I wish I had fruitful friendships, trusting friendships.  The kind, that would be strong.  Right now. I wish, that my relationships with people, have not come to this place, where I cannot trust.  But it is what it is.  I don’t frankly understand it.  But I accept it.

I wish no one any hurt or pain, by my decision to walk alone.  But, if I seem to bring out the worse in others, I would never want to make them unhappy by who I just am.  I saw that happen with some folks.  I seemed to bring out the worse in them, instead of the best.  It made me sad…

And some apologies have come through, by some, yet, I just don’t seem to bounce back.  To open myself to trust.  I have forgiven all.  So nothing can be said, to change my mind.  For the trust is gone.  And I am not looking to find it any more.  Its hidden in a place, where only God can touch it.

 

DSC_0027.jpgI have never been one to try and flaunt, or brag about anything about me, because if I am blessed in some things, there are things, I have suffered greatly for so, so I don’t understand when someone thinks, I don’t grieve about some things.  I am always happy to be on the sidelines, I don’t need the glory.  I want God to have it. 

FOR THOU ART MY HOPE, O LORD GOD:  THOU ART MY TRUST FROM MY YOUTH.  PSALMS 71:5  KJV. 

So, when they get jealous enough to compare.  I don’t understand that. I just know Christ helps me.  Anything, I have, everything I have, is due to God, blessing me, and I thank Him.

When someone tells me that they don’t respect me.  I believe them.  When someone tells me they are jealous of me, I believe them.  

And I just rebuke that in the name of Jesus.  Why?  Because I only had the best heart for these individuals, and this is the end result from them.  It is not from God. And they know it!  But that’s between them and God now, and the battle is His, I am letting go. 

O MY GOD, I TRUST IN THEE: LET ME NOT BE ASHAMED, LET NOT MINE ENEMIES TRIUMPH OVER ME.  PSALMS 25:2  KJV.

I do forgive, because I don’t want poison in my soul….

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But see, it is that trust that is gone.  That scares me.  Gives me a red alert.  I did not realize how much I could take by some people, I called friends, who I really loved dearly, but I cannot take any more.  So I choose now to walk alone…

Trust is such a precious attribute.  Be careful with it.  Don’t abuse it.

COMMIT THY WAY UNTO THE LORD: TRUST ALSO IN HIM; AND HE SHALL BRING IT TO PASS.  PSALMS 37:5  KJV

My circle, is small now.  My guard is up, my armor of God is on securely, and my trust is gone.

YE THAT FEAR THE LORD, TRUST IN THE LORD:  HE IS THEIR HELP AND THEIR SHIELD.  PSALMS 115:11.  KJV.  

I don’t know if I want to trust anyone ever again.  But God.  And don’t get me wrong, I am not having a pity party, about it.  I am actually feeling just a sense of relief.  I don’t understand it, but I am.  I feel like a weight has been lifted off.

Like my eyes are completely opened, spiritually, if that makes sense, and I am actually grateful, I have the strength to walk away.  You know like after a long storm, and the sunshine comes out, and you just can see things more clearly.  And you just thank God.  Because you never want to be tossed to and fro, by anyone.

Because you see things…..  Things that you may look at and see, but after a while, you realize it is not healthy.  For them, or you.

Knowing God, trusting God, has given me discernment.

There is something so comforting in just relying on God.  It activates my faith.  So though, my trust level in others is gone.  It is intense, with God.  I have faith.  And trust in my Lord.

BLESSED IS THAT MAN THAT MAKETH THE LORD HIS TRUST, AND RESPECTETH NOT THE PROUD, NOR SUCH AS TURN ASIDE TO LIES.  PSALMS 40:4  KJV.  

I want to be careful to change the tone here in my writings, the subject matter.  I am closing these doors.  And I think I have spent too much time thinking about them, writing about them, and grieving.  Time for the joy of the Lord to be my strength.

I WILL SAY OF THE LORD, HE IS MY REFUGE AND MY FORTRESS: MY GOD; IN HIM WILL I TRUST.  PSALMS 91:2 KJV. 

Have a blessed Fathers day, everybody.

HEAL+THY+SELF IN CHRIST =  JESUS GIVES ME HEALTHY SELF.

ISAIAH 53:5, I claim that for you too….

Elena Ramirez

 

 

 

 

 

WHEN YOU SEE A FRIEND GO TO THE DARK SIDE ~ By Christian Author Elena Ramirez


IMG_3886There are signs, there are signals, one might see, if they have a friend, that goes to the dark side.

And you grieve for them, because you love them.  But you cannot do anything.  Because God gives us a choice.  Its always a choice.

But when someone, purposely has pride, will not be humble, will not forgive, will not communicate, will believe a lie, and actually fight you, to maintain all that, hate.  

Well….all you can do is walk away.  When someone, will bring up offenses, over and over again, that is not forgiving.  

See, the enemy, has deceived them.  And when any of us, purposely disobey God in matters of forgiveness, well, thats giving place to the enemy.  Thats going to the dark side.  

See, our words do matter.  When one makes a commitment, to love God, and love one another, one takes it to heart.  You don’t just say it when its convenient, or when its going good.  But through all times.  

But I was not the one who made the choice to close the case but her.  And, to depart from that, is a choice, and its a choice, that brings darkness.  God sees.  

Scripture says, a friend, loves at all times, not when its convenient.  Or when, everything is alright.  Love, does love through, the disagreements, the silence, and even, the hate.  

See, I know, I love someone, someone, I called a sister, a friend, who for so much showed friendship and loyalty, to me, but when it came down to it, she was not accountable, to her own behavior.  I still love this person, but I see, she has stepped into the darkness.  And now I just grieve for her.  

Because now she is just someone, who wants nothing to do with me, ever again.  And I respect that.  It does hurt, but I am grateful, I have my armor on, and I will quench those fiery darts from the enemy, that he uses, from my frien-enemy to throw at me.  

I am careful, always, to offer forgiveness, because I know myself, that if we are not pleasing God in this, He will not forgive us.  And the record shows I did. But she rejected it.  

I may have made mistakes, in fact, I know I did, in friendship with this person, I am thinking about.  But the grace was not there for me.  And I kept seeing it, and yet I offered grace, but she would not.  She offered me the silent treatment, closed the case, and let obscenities be spoken about me.  That is not love.

So, when you don’t see grace, that is a signal, that this person, has their blinders on.  Sad thing is, if you keep your blinders on, and do not obey God,  You can miss it.  And walk right into the enemies camp, of darkness.  And he only comes to kill, steal and destroy.  Even friendships, based on prayer, and God.  Especially those kind, and that was the kind of friendship we had, at one time.  

Sad thing is though, when you see other friends, contribute to that, and take sides, well they have gone to the dark side with that person.  I REBUKE THAT, IN THE NAME OF JESUS.  I MARK THAT, AND WANT NOTHING TO DO WITH THEM EITHER. 

We pray for people, but we also know, its a choice.  You want to pull them out of the fiery flames, but when people silence you, want nothing to do with you.

 You go, on, with Christ.  Christ said, as His disciples, we were to love one another.  He said, that we were to forgive.  He said, that love would show we were His disciples.  I have tried, but I am done.  

I will try and not write about this person, ever again, concerning this person.  Because this person, did not care, that she wounded me.  But this is how I heal.  And I have nothing further to say, you see, I tried. And I know it.

I have so many cards from this person, so many reminders, of a commitment, that she just forgot about.  So I may do some purging, of gifts, and reminders. 

Make sure you have done all you can in love, and forgiveness, and let the record reflect that.  Because there is one.  And God sees.  

If you can relate to my friend, I  implore you to repent to God.  I don’t expect an apology at this point, from her, but if I can warn someone, don’t go to the dark side.  

BY THIS SHALL ALL MEN KNOW THAT YE ARE MY DISCIPLES, IF YE HAVE LOVE ONE TO ANOTHER.  JOHN 13:35  KJV.  

Blessings, and love,

Elena Ramirez 

REMEMBER THE LOVE THE GOOD TIMES TO GO ON EVEN IF YOU ARE HURT ~ By Christian Author Elena Ramirez


IMG_3480REMEMBER THE LOVE THE GOOD TIMES TO GO ON EVEN IF YOU ARE HURT ~ By Elena Ramirez

Sometimes, people have to speak things over us, by God so we can see it. So, this is what I will do for you, as my husband spoke this over me.

You see, I had a very dear friend, who I loved dearly. And we were friends for over 25 years. I loved this lady dearly, and you know what she loved me. She was a very generous lady, a very kind lady, in Christ. We both were prayer warriors.

But people change, and I suppose I did too. And well the enemy divided us up. I never thought, I would see that day, but it did happen.

And I won’t go into all the details, but when respect is not given or received, or when one is rejected, well one walks away. I did. Maybe I misunderstood, but since she would not clarify it, thats what I interpreted.

Anyway, long story short, its been over a month. Since we have talked. And I don’t expect her or me to budge in this. Its not that I have pride, but I know when I have done all I can and so, I know I could not add anything more.

But I found myself getting bitter about it, angry, yes I told her I forgave, and I do. But sometimes, you can war within yourself in these matters. I did.

Last night my husband and I were briefly talking about it. And I said, I just feel indifferent now. Not that I don’t care, because I do, but I just am disappointed.

He told me, you know, you need to just let it go. You outgrew each other, and just remember the good in her, she is a good person, and for what it was worth, she blessed you, you blessed her, and now its done. Its over.

Something about his words, ministered to me. I went to sleep finally at peace about it. I prayed God bless her. She is a very kind, and generous person, and she made me laugh, and we were good friends, but sometimes, things change.

People outgrow each other, for different reasons. I suppose she outgrew me, and not that I outgrew her, because I accepted her as she was.

But I accept her choices now, and I RESPECT, her reasons. Even though I do not understand. I can go on.

Perhaps, you struggle, with someone, from your past. Someone you love. A friendship, or even a love. Remember the love, the kindness, the friendship, and don’t demonize them, or hate them, but just release them, with the love, the good that bound you.

See you have to make sure poison, of unforgiveness does not affect you. You have to make sure you are doing your part according to Christ. I cannot control the situation, but I can control how I react to it. I release her in Christ, because she was a gift.

There is a saying, if you love someone, let them go, and if they are yours they will return. I love my friend, enough to walk away, and let her go. I don’t seek to return, to her, nor do I think she seeks to return to me. It is what it is. But I accept it now, with forgiveness in my heart.

But I have peace, and thank God for the times, we were friends, it nurtured me, and I rejoice in the gift of what it was then. It was a gift.

But some gifts, are returned to the sender. No matter what the heart felt intention was. If it was not true, it will show itself. See gifts are just something that is icing on the cake.

But if the sentiment, does not follow up with respect it does not prove itself.

Oh well. God bless your day.

By Elena Ramirez

 

A FRIEND LOVETH AT ALL TIMES, AND A BROTHER IS BORN FOR ADVERSITY.  PROVERBS 17:17  KJV.  

FREEDOM OF SPEECH ~ DO YOU USE IT OR ABUSE IT? By Christian Author Elena Ramirez


IMG_2523.jpgFREEDOM OF SPEECH DO YOU USE IT OR ABUSE IT? By Elena Ramirez

I am grateful to God for our freedoms, here, in the United States.  Many are using that right, even now with our new President.  Donald J. Trump. To protest, and express how they feel.  But they cross a line, when they riot.  

I do not agree with many of these views.  Because they are not my core values, but I do respect freedom of speech.  But what I see, is many hide behind their computer, or even publicly say, and do things with freedom of speech that makes me cringe.  They abuse it. 

So lately, I don’t know, I have been seeing a lot of abuse. By many. And I guess it even concerns me, when I see a brother or a sister, in Christ abuse it.

People, I love.

Look, God gives us each a conscience. But maybe you will just consider what I am about to say as love. Maybe a guideline to help you.

But let me ask you a few questions…
Is what your sharing, is it truth?
Is it a lie?
Is it love?
Or is it hate?
Is it mean spirited?
Is it something, that will bring understanding?
Is it something, that is not a bad example for others to learn from? Hmmm.
Is it something that respects?
Is it something that disrespects?
Does it bring unity to us as Americans, and yes even people of other races, creeds, religions etc.

Or does it set out to cause division?

Are you promoting life? Or are you promoting something that hurts life? And takes it away…..

Is your agenda, Gods agenda?

All of these things are just things we can miss. I know, I probably do. And for that I repent to God. We need to find the balance. I am not your conscience. You are. I know, myself, I have erred….

But I also know…..

If God is your savior, you know, He knows your thoughts…..

But there are things, I just shake my head at, because its as if the person, is not really thinking…..

For, when I see a brother or a sister, playing with someones emotions. And they put out something, that may make ME sympathize with them, and even bring out outrage, or anger, because they were hurt, or insulted, and then THEY say;

“Hey I was just playing with you” I was pulling your leg.

I look at that as very immature.

Its a spirit, you are releasing that is a lie, and then you call it a joke. It harms your spirit, because you are practicing lying….

You have to look at the fruit of it, and what it gives, and what it does for you. And yes even others.

I don’t trust lies, or liars, and when I see someone who I trusted use that kind of illustration, to make me think different. Or to play with my emotions. I do, no longer, trust the integrity of that person.

Its like the analogy of the little boy, who cried wolf. Making people believe him, but when they saw the lie, they stopped believing him. But the sad thing happened, the wolf really did appear. No one believed him, when he truly spoke the truth….

Look, I want to be very general about this. But lets remember.

Freedom of speech is a gift. Its something we need to honor, and protect. It should not be used, to incite, evil, or violence, or anything that goes against what Christ taught us in love. The report, should bring light, not darkness, to ourselves or others.

Yes, and truth does not always means it won’t hurt. It will…

But, use love if your going to bring truth to it. Look, I am a warrior, but even God teaches warriors to be diplomatic.

I take to God what my KJV Says, and I don’t want to just pick and choose, for my purposes.

Just food for thought, this morning. Freedom of speech…do you use it, or abuse it?

FINALLY BRETHREN, WHATSOEVER THINGS ARE TRUE, WHATSOEVER THINGS ARE HONEST, WHATSOEVER THINGS ARE JUST, WHATSOEVER THINGS ARE PURE, WHATSOEVER THINGS ARE LOVELY, WHATSOEVER THINGS ARE OF GOOD REPORT, IF THERE BE ANY VIRTUE, AND IF THERE BE ANY PRAISE THINK ON THESE THINGS…..THESE THINGS WHICH YE HAVE BOTH LEARNED AND RECEIVED, AND HEARD, AND SEEN IN ME DO: AND THE GOD OF PEACE SHALL BE WITH YOU. PHILIPPIANS 4:8-9. KJV.

I just realize if we are going to use our voices, we really need to stop, and think, and be responsible.  

Accountable to God and others.  In love… I never want to abuse this gift.  

Blessings in Christ, Elena Ramirez 

FRIENDSHIP ON SOCIAL MEDIA THE EXPECTATIONS AND TIPS AS A CHRISTIAN ~ BY CHRISTIAN AUTHOR ELENA RAMIREZ


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Friendship….what does it mean to you? There are some people we call friends, but do we know them, truly?

I mean, we ask to be friends here, on FB, Twitter and other Social media outlets and some folks we know, and some we do not know. But what is our expectation? Do we want to build true friendships? Or just collect people?

Or if we are Christians, do we want to find people, who believe like we do? So we can call on them to pray? Or we can be there for them to pray for them? Or to chat now and then because as Christians we should relate to each other.

Every one has their reason to be a friend or not to be a friend. And I know, myself, I do cherish you folks. And yes, there are some of you, that I love so dearly. Even though, we have never met….

But, I have unfriended people myself, or blocked them because of differences, in the way one relates as well. Sometimes, you know people you have called them friends, and yet something happens, and it changes everything. And sadly some friendships have been broken.

I have learned some things here, about myself, and how important it is to be friends with Christ first. Things that He expects in friendship is loyalty, being humble, being kind, overlooking differences.

Forgiving….Yet, He is my savior, so there is more that I have to look at to honor Him. So obedience has to come into the foundation to always think and be as He is in love.

And because of that….I think one thing I have learned if someone is a Christian, we are supposed to be brothers and sisters. No, ifs, buts or maybe. And as brothers and sisters we are called to love one another. This is what God commanded us.

Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind.  This is the first and great commandment.  And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thy self.  On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.  Matthew 22:37-40

True friendships though, need a foundation.  They need to have something in common.  And if one person does not work at the friendship and the other one does, wow….what a let down.  Communication is important, but lets be honest, sometimes we cannot always communicate.  So grace must be extended.

But it is kind of a drag, when you work at the friendship, and the other person does not.  It seems to be one sided.  And I admit, I get weary, when I don’t see progress.  Or they do not appreciate me, or my attempts.  In friendship.  I am not trying to brag, but I think I am a good friend, because of Christ.  I think I can bless a friend.  I have a lot of love, but when it is not appreciated, I learn to put a shield on my heart.  

I have learned to choose Christ, over friends.  When I saw the way they truly thought, and learned that they did not agree in faith with me, well I have walked away.  After I saw their true colors.  It hurt me, as it may have that person, but some influences are not good.  And we have to choose Christ first.  I have to choose His ways, He is my greatest friend.  

We need to develop friendships, that are based on Christ.  Christ was a friend to all, but his closest friends were His disciples.  Yet there was Judas, and Judas betrayed Christ.  Oh those feelings of betrayal, and pain, we get when we trust people, and they let us down.

We need to be mature, we need to give someone respect, we need to see even if we are right, that it is better to be kind, then to reject them.  And there are times, we don’t know, so we pray.

I have seen a few articles that touch base on this, and the affects of being unfriended, or rejected in a social media forum.  And people do get wounded.  So even though we are behind our computers, we need to think about that other person.  But more then anything, I want God to be pleased by the way I react or communicate with someone, in these forums.  As a friend….

Well, anyway, I don’t know why or how to always understand….but I pray for wisdom in my friendships.  I am learning, it is a process, so lets all be kind to one another, as we grow together with Christ.

Just sharing right now…..I love you my friends.  I want to help you.  I want to help others by my writings.  I don’t want to point fingers, because hey it could be pointed back at me.

But I really do want to be a true friend in Christ.

I may be wearing my heart on my sleeve right now, but I long for true friends.  Friends who care, and friends who are loyal, and honest, but care about my feelings, even if I am wrong.  But they will use discretion to talk.  I long for true Christian friends, who are true in Christ.  

But don’t just unfriend me, or reject me.  That is the most saddest feeling to have a friend walk away, and you don’t know why.  Especially if that friend was a Christian.  I think the most wounded feeling I have ever had is to be rejected by people I loved, and called them either a brother or sister in Christ.  And it has happened to me, and it broke my heart, for a long time. Because I loved these people.  

To be rejected by them goes back to how I imagine Christ must have felt by Judas.

At least if I do walk away, I will tell you why.  I hope to anyway.

Just a thought about friendship in Christ.  Thank you Priscilla, for being witness in the spirit, to bring this post out.  To ask me to write about friendship.

I wrote it earlier, but felt it was too much at the moment, but God knows…

With love, Elena Ramirez

Lord, help me to be the kind of friend you want me to be in Christ.  Thank you Lord.  You are my greatest friend, and you never unfriend me.  In fact, you search for me.  And teach me.  As I search for you.  I want to feel like you feel.  And honor your feelings, as my greatest friend.  In whatever situation, Lord there is no greater friend then you.  In Jesus name, Amen

A friend loveth at all times, and a brother is born for adversity…..Proverbs 17:17 

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