By Christian Author….Elena Ramirez 

Sometimes you have to see there are boundaries no one should ever cross in respect. And sometimes you do have to be cruel to be kind, especially when you love people. You say enough is enough.

You realize if you don’t, you will lose your own self respect. And that’s a curse, because you don’t see, you are a child of the King. Sometimes we have to realize who we are in Christ, and what Christ did for us, on that cross, cleanses us.  By His grace.  

We are the head, and not the tail!  


And nobody should ever go past the boundaries of respect. EVER!  

It is sad, but sometimes, people mistake a good nature, a kindness, as weakness, and they challenge that.  They cross boundaries.  But it is a strength to be kind, and nice, but there are those boundaries, where you say no more.  

You then become cruel to be kind. You stand up for yourself, and what is right, in the sight of God.  With courage.  You call it for what it is, with truth.  Because the truth sets us all free. 

This is how it is I believe with God.  He is extending grace to all of us.  But there will be a time, when hell will be paid, if we do not see His ways.  And repent, because we reap what we sow.  And His wrath will be revealed.  

Do you see why I have fear of God?  Because I do.  

But, I know the difference, with people.  It’s not a matter of pride, it’s a matter of dignity. And when someone realizes they crossed that boundary and is accountable they grow! Apologies. Respect go hand in hand.  Gods grace is not silent.  

It seems, I meet a lot of people who try to cross my boundaries, with disrespect.  Well I rebuke that as well, I am breaking this cycle by sadly walking away.  By being mean to be kind.  

It seems people cross that boundary.  In matters of my faith, in matters of friendship, in matters of privacy, and even in matters of common courtesy.  

I guess, I have just come from a place, where I say enough is enough.  Where I may even sound, or seem hurtful myself, and I have come out swinging.  And my nature as a warrior, is contributed by that, because I did have to fight to survive.   Growing up.  

Yet, I cannot let someone steal my peace, so I walk away.  Oh I know, I cannot cross boundaries myself, and I must maintain self-control.  I must be careful not to return evil for evil.  Am I perfect at this?  No.  Sadly but I do repent.  And strive for His excellence in these matters.  

And I have loved people, and sadly, many have walked away, or I walked away from them, because they showed no respect.  There are personal boundaries, that I will not allow someone to cross.  And the worst lately, for me, is the silent treatment.  

I will not tolerate that.  Because it is a sign of rejection.  And a sign of disrespect.  Its a form of manipulation, to punish me, when I know, I did not deserve that.  

I will not tolerate, obscenities to be spoken about me, or against me.  Or gestures that may not be spoken but that are the same.  As an obscenity.  I will not tolerate lies, as well.  I know who I am, in Christ.

For me, its a matter, of maintaining my dignity, in Christ.  When I know I have forgiven.  Others.   When I know, I do not deserve treatment like that, because I am a child of the King.  

I may sound harsh.  I may sound mean.  But if I have to be cruel to be kind, then maybe the person, who is being used by the enemy will see their own errors.  No!  I will not take that.  

I will speak truth, because thats the only thing that sets us free.  And maybe thats why I am hated.  But I would rather please my God, then people.  

And I am determined to prove my trustworthiness to God.  It is my goal.  But I cannot do that if I myself, am in denial.  And not walking in love.  And not doing my part, to maintain who I am in Christ.  He sees, everything, and why people don’t grasp that is beyond me.  

But oh well….  I cannot be cowardly in these matters of finding my own dignity, and respect.  

See we all have to grow.  If we really want to have a healthy spirit, with Christ.  And there are boundaries, we sometimes have to see, and say no, enough is enough.

Now if people are smart enough they will see the error of their own ways, and not cross those boundaries, but also, repent to God, and apologize to those you have taken advantage of disrespectfully.

That spirit comes from the enemy.  There are clues, that indicate this:

1. A spirit of manipulation.  (are you trying to make someone do something, by being manipulative? )  Thats wrong, and dishonest in the sight of God.

2.  Are you being a false witness?  Are you accusing someone else, because you just want to be vindictive?  You need to really see the error of your own ways…..

3. Do you really forgive, or do you bring it back up?  And if you do forgive, then forgive but don’t throw something back at someones face to be a false witness.  Thats a lie from hell to do so.  Because forgiveness is covered by the blood of Jesus.  

4.  Are you jealous?  That spirit, leads right to the devil, for that is one of his characteristics.  You have to see it.

5.  Are you in denial?  You cannot see your own errors, but you try to put it on someone else disrespectfully?  That is wrong, in the sight of God, and you will never grow.

6.  Do you have the spirit of pride?  That pride will always try to puff yourself up, and you will never admit your own wrong doing, because you cannot bear to let anybody see you humble.  Thats so wrong.

7.  Do you walk out of love, and make it all about you.  How narcissistic that is, and again, another characteristic from the devil.  SELF.  

Yes, walking away hurts.  Especially when you love people. But I have learned, as much as I do hate confrontation, I have to confront people like that.  And tell them, what bothers me, so I can get my own dignity back with respect.  

And either they take it for what its worth, and see the error of their own ways.  Or they do not.  But I do not need friendships that are not based on any kind of mutual respect.  I do not need to be anybodies punching bag.  

Being cruel to be kind, does not cross lines as well.  Returning evil for evil.  And I know for my own part, it may seem harsh, and evil as well.  

But I repent.  And thats the difference, because I know, the only way God will guide me, and help me grow, is if I am in that place of humbleness.  Yes we all make mistakes,  but I know the key is knowing who you are in Christ.  Not crossing boundaries, and yes repenting, and apologizing.

Just sharing some thoughts today on the matter.  You see, I need to get healthy myself spiritually, and I need to maintain those boundaries for my own growth in Christ.  Sometimes you do put up walls, so you can protect yourself.  So others will not cross that boundary.  

Is that being cruel to be kind?  I don’t know, all I know, is when I am done.  And right now, I am done.  Until I see something to change my mind and heart, back to respect. 


Love and blessings,


Please Note:  I was going to make this a “Note To Self”:  For my new blog, which consists of a thoughts and prayer, with scripture as the format.  

But was led to put it here.  Blessings, check out my new blog…..sign up for it, and please share this.  You may just help someone, who needs to see this truth.  Love you in Christ, Elena 






Version 3I feel led to write to someone, to comfort them, to warn them, to encourage them.   Do not let people intimidate you.  God will deal with them.  God is not a respecter of persons, He loves us all.  But God will protect you, from unjust harm.  Trust Him.  

For, there are many King James scriptures that tell us about our enemies.  And there are many scriptures that tells us what happens to the wicked:

That in blessing I will bless thee, and in multiplying I will multiply thy seed as the stars of the heaven, and as the sand which is upon the sea shore; and thy seed shall possess the gate of his enemies; Genesis 22:17  KJV.  

But if thou shalt indeed obey His voice, and do all that I speak then I will be an enemy unto thine enemies, and an adversary unto thine adversaries.  Exodus 23:22.  KJV  

The Lord preserveth all them that love him:  but all the wicked will he destroy.  Psalms 145:20  KJV.

But the wicked shall perish, and the enemies of the Lord shall be as the fat of the lambs:  they shall consume; into smoke shall they consume away.  

Psalm 37:20  KJV.

I am a warrior.  I learned to be that way, because of the own people I dealt with growing up.  I did not have  brothers or sisters.  To protect me.  But I had to fight.  

I fought….In the business world, and even here on social media.  And there are people, who only want to intimidate you, fight you, argue with you, and try to make you feel uncomfortable, or sad.  

Thats their agenda.  I stay clear from those kind of people.  I won’t sit with the scorner.  I won’t even try to let them think I agree with them, when I don’t.  If someone cusses at me, they lose me, in even trying to communicate.  I won’t go to that level.  

Whether its in politics, or in religion, or in the work place. Or even your neighborhood.   The jealousy, prejudice, or pure ignorance, the rudeness, that blinds them, will try and intimidate you.

There are people, no matter how hard you try to get a long with them.  Their venom will come out.  

And I do recommend trying to get along with people.  In fact pray for them.  Walk in love anyway, as Christ commanded us.    

But it seems, no matter what you try to do, they will fight you, argue with you, or try to intimidate you.  

Don’t let that spirit cripple you.  This is a trap from the enemy.  To believe a lie, or to stop you from being fulfilled in the promises of God.  Trust God. 

Maintain your courage, and just know, God is on your side.  Just know, there are angels that are dispatched, for you.  Trust God.  Let this thing that the enemy is trying to use against you, make you stronger.  

Its sad, because I personally have seen people, use something about a person, even personally to make them feel uncomfortable. As if they were superior.  And they will try to manipulate you to think you are not worthy.  

And I guess, even in writing this.  Because I know.  Whatever it is you may have, as a handicap, or as something that makes you feel inferior.  Even your race.  Which should not even be a factor, but because racism and hate is prevalent, they will try and make you feel inferior.  

God can use that, and teach you, how to be stronger, even for someone else.  You can get courage.  You can speak truth.  You can be someone who can rise above it.  

Yes, there are some battles that are not meant for us to fight.  And you need to ask God for wisdom.  

And I myself, pray every day for wisdom in such matters.  Because I have as a fighter been involved in things that I should not.  

But, yet, there is something in me that rises up against evil.  Or against, an injustice to someone else.  Or to an accuser, who is so hateful.  That you tell them.  Knock it off.  And you tell them about their own indiscretions, since they want to make you feel unworthy.  Especially here on social media.  

Where people, will say things, do things, that they would not in public.  But something about being behind a computer, they get courage, to be rude and mean, and try to intimidate you.  Don’t let them.  If you know truth, stand… be still, and Know He is God.  

Look, in life, we will meet the good, the bad, and the ugly.  But don’t be a part of the ugly, or the bad, because you yourself, have been hurt, or intimidated  by someone else.  

Turn it around, whatever wound you have.   Whatever that makes you inferior.  Whatever it is that may have  broken you even in your heart, and life.  And just give it to God.  

God will fight your enemies for you.  I have seen this in my own life.  I have seen God deal with people who have hurt me, and He has punished them.  See they have no idea, especially if you are a Christian, what God will do with them.  But they will reap what they sow.  They have no idea who God is.  

And its sad, because if we all would just see, how frail we are.  If we could just see that their is an enemy.  We would humble ourselves, and bow down, and give God glory, because there is nothing impossible with God.  We would all be kinder, to each other, we would walk in love.  

If all of us would just even apologize, for being sometimes being rude, or insensitive.  We might soothe the beast.  A soft word, turns away anger….

Because we are all capable of that.  See we never know what someone else is going through.  And when people are mean, or cruel, and they have burdens, sadness, God sees.  And it grieves Him, when they are trying to intimidate His child.  He will have His vengeance.  But maybe he is trying for you to see why that person is mean.  Pray for them. 

I just pray, for whoever is reading this, that is feeling intimidated.  Pray, give your whole being to God.  Repent, yourself for even your part in it, if there is…..because maybe you are reaping, what you sowed.  Now you are getting the tail end of it.  

But, stay humble in the sight of God.  Do whats right.  Do not take matters, in your hand that would cause you to lose your right standing with God.  Let God deal with them.  But don’t let them intimidate you.  Just know who you are in Christ.  You are victorious.  You are Gods child, precious, and beautiful in His sight, and He loves you.  That should be enough right now to comfort you, and to pray…..  

Don’t forget to use a King James Bible to search for your scriptures.  For holiness, and anointing, that the others do not give.  

Please share this post, maybe you will help someone who needs to see this.  And may God bless you for doing that.  

This is His promise from the King James:  

And I will deliver thee out of the hand of the wicked, and I will redeem thee out of the hand of the terrible.  Jeremiah 15:21  KJV.  

Blessings, and love, Elena Ramirez