As God is my example, of course I forgive. I release the poison. I will not keep it in my heart. I will obey God.
But as God is my example, I do not tolerate disrespect. GOD IS NOT MOCKED. I release the disrespect and the mockery, and I stand my ground. I take back my respect from anybody who tries to steal it.
Disrespect is a form of mockery, and if my Lord, does not tolerate it, why should I? I don’t have to, and I can keep my peace and walk away.
It does not mean I do not forgive it means, I know who I am in Christ.
BE NOT DECEIVED; GOD IS NOT MOCKED: FOR WHATSOEVER A MAN SOWETH, THAT SHALL HE ALSO REAP. FOR HE THAT SOWETH TO HIS FLESH SHALL OF THE FLESH REAP CORRUPTION: BUT HE THAT SOWETH TO THE SPIRIT SHALL OF THE SPIRIT REAP LIFE EVERLASTING. AND LET US NOT BE WEARY IN WELL DOING; FOR IN DUE SEASON WE SHALL REAP IF WE FAINT NOT. AS WE HAVE THEREFORE OPPORTUNITY, LET US DO GOOD UNTO ALL MEN, ESPECIALLY UNTO THEM WHO ARE OF THE HOUSEHOLD OF FAITH.
GALATIANS 6:7-10 KJV.
I hope these thoughts will encourage someone. You see, long story short, if you have ever been disrespected by someone, it feels like they have taken something away from you. And its hard to regain trust, or even a sense of confidence, when you allow someone to do that. Even after you forgive. But Christ did not tell us, to trust someone who does that.
It has happened to me a few times, and even by family members. So recently when an offense occurred between me and a former friend, I knew I could not allow it. And I hate to say former, but right now, it does not look good. I will always care though for this person.
I had tried to extend grace, but that same grace was not extended to me. I called it for what it was. Respect. Respect was not given to me. I was being snubbed and ignored. And I took my respect back.
I walked away. And sometimes you have to do that. The sad thing, is, I love the person. But this person, would not give me the courtesy, that I extended. And it took me a while. To see, it, but really I see and believe God showed me.
I was in a spiritual battle for over two weeks, and I was trying to keep communication opened, but it was closed shut in my face. The Lord showed me this person was given to change. Said one thing, but yet, was being offended with me, and it just did not make sense.
MY SON, FEAR THOU THE LORD, AND THE KING: AND MEDDLE NOT WITH THEM THAT ARE GIVEN TO CHANGE. Proverbs 24:21. KJV.
This person was given to change. The actions, the “heartfelt intentions” this person said they had, did not match the actions.
I think it took me a while because sometimes, you don’t see it. Its subtle, its in subliminal ways, that people treat you, that may be indirect, but keep you puzzled. Or frustrated, because you cannot resolve issues. This is where I was with this person. But I did not see it, because love and friendship should be gracious. Should be kind, it should be honorable. I gave it, in grace. But grace was not extended to me.
But if you are tolerated, and not celebrated. Look and see the signs. Its not in the gift one gives, but in the respect.
You need to see what people really mean, by their actions. Not so much their words. But their actions. Silence is not always golden, my friend.
And if you are an opened book, like I am. You expect someone to be honest, and opened with you. Respect yourself, and reject anybody who will not respect you. Anyone who tries to control you, by that is using manipulation. And the KJV scriptures talk about that, as being like witchcraft. Nope walk away.
Remember its not just about forgiving. Its about knowing who you are in Christ. He did not call us to become door mats, or someones stepping stone. Yes, forgive so the poison, will not penetrate you. But respect yourself enough, to walk away. Know who you are in Christ. Put on your armor of God, and walk away. Quench those fiery darts, by His love.
I hope this helps someone.
Blessings, and love,