Sometimes, approaching someone in truth, is hard. I understand. But sometimes, you have to find the courage to speak it, say it, because as the scripture says, it sets us free.
AND YE SHALL KNOW THE TRUTH, AND THE TRUTH SHALL MAKE YOU FREE. JOHN 8:32 KJV.
I suppose, thats why I am writing this. Because I am searching for truth. But I am not the one withholding it.
I understand, some people have a hard time with truth. I understand, I have the boldness, to speak it, and to reveal it. Now I know there are some things, wisdom, has taught me, about that.
Concerning silence, and I don’t want this to be confused, either. Because there is silence, with grace. And there is silence, with the intention to hurt someone with the “silent treatment.”
But recently, I read a GIF, that said; “Some friends, go for long periods of time, without communicating, but they never question the friendship, and remain friends.”
And I thought…. that used to be me, a few months ago…..
And I won’t get into details. But I have changed my stance. After some time, after some reflection, after letting things settle a bit.
I see how not telling truth, can destroy. Not communicating…..Avoiding truth, making excuses, not being accountable. I no longer trust silence. From anyone. In fact, truth be, I only trust God. I am glad it happened. Because I have learned how things can change. How people can. And only God keeps His word.
But to apply it here….I no longer trust a lack of communication. Because it is hiding a lie, of being offended. Or other things…
You see, silence is not always golden.
Lies, when you trust people, and believe the best in them, yet their motives are different, you see, if only communication had been applied, at the time, then a “lie” would not have had power.
I saw this firsthand. You see, When someone denies the truth, even after you asked them. And you see the evidence of truth, because it was not only obvious, it was not a coincidence. Something was spoken simultaneously. Yet you asked, for the truth, and it was denied. You see the truth, of a lie, because it was not communicated. It tried to protect someone, it tried, to avoid truth. It went into denial….
It tried to be a secret.
But do they not see, it gave place to the enemy? Because he is the father of lies?
And it snowballed. It got bigger, and it tried to destroy. Yet you extended grace.
The wrong kind….even though the motive was heart felt, it was given in a lie.
For, not all people, have the same intention in matters of truth, and friendship, and loyalty, and honesty.
I guess, I am, writing about this, because I am not trying to hurt anybody, or myself. But I am trying, in my own little way, to speak truth and love. Because I want a lie, to be exposed….
But I will not confront someone, and beg for truth. I can be silent too…. I can and have walked away.
I suppose respect has taught me this…..respect for God to do His job in such matters.
But I have my part. He says forgive. I do, yet I think about it…..
But because I know that our Lord, hates liars. He hates and sees, how lies, come from the enemy. He knows, we cannot truly be free, until, we speak truth. For it will set us free. We cannot be silent, if we truly want to be free in Christ. I want truth, for those who were involved, to be free. Thats all. In love, in forgiving, in mercy….
Yet, I want to be free from it, because no matter how much I say, I forgive. I am reminded, of how the enemy destroyed something very precious to me, in friendship. Trust. They say trust is earned.
Maybe it could be earned again, because I do have a gracious heart. I don’t know, and this is not a guarantee, that I would. Because too much silence has gone by.
But I will not use, grace to be silent, to withhold love and communication. Truth! To purposely hurt someone, as it was to me.
It would require sacrifice but not from me. You see, if I had other motives, then I would not respect myself. I would actually understand, even the silent treatment….and maybe that was me, before I truly saw what Christ did. But not now. I have come too far. My sins, are covered, and in fact, I daily go to the throne, in repentance.
But I do respect who I am in Christ, because I will not try to find loop holes, or avoid, my own sins. I go to the cross, and I go to those who have been offended.
And I apologize, when I am wrong. But it is sad, when you have done that, and it was still thrown in your face. People, that do that, did not forgive, not truly. There is the fruit in that. And it does not come from the Holy Spirit. So please, before you judge someones spirit in these matters. Look at what you did first.
Why I write this, is only because I will not let the enemy, think, he won. Because something that is given by God, cannot be taken away, unless it wants to be taken away. True friendships, last a lifetime, even if someone thinks its only a season.
And a friend truly loves at all times. One may say one thing, about friendship, and that it is “Godgiven” but if the fruit reveals a lie, and denial. The gift was denied. It truly, was not recognized as a gift, from God, to honor it. I am talking symbolically. But I am also talking about this, by actions. For it affects the spirituality of a choice. God will not bless a lie.
Because actions, showed, they did not care, that it was God given…. Anything that God gives to us, is holy. Marriage, etc. Even friendship. But if friendship is not treated as holy, and treated like the world would, in actions, and lies. Obscenities…
Well the friendship will break, because God did give it in holiness. But we have the responsibility to honor it, to protect it, to offer communication, and not close the case.
If anything to go to God….and do it His way. For He is the way, the truth, and life.
Same thing with our salvation, you cannot treat what Christ did for you on the cross, shabbily. Because you deny the holiness. This is breaking a covenant. Christ did not break it. One did, by allowing sin.
I suppose this is why God extends grace to us, to come to His throne. Because He loves us, He wants to spare us, the legality of what sin, and lies do. This is why He sent Christ, for only Christ is holy.
But to go to others, as well, and admit a wrong doing. But if you ask for forgiveness, ask for it, because you meant it, not because you got caught in a lie.
Stop making excuses. To clear the slate. To clear your conscious. Do not give the enemy any place in that which you thought was “Godgiven.” Don’t give mixed signals. Focus on what you did first.
Then go to the cross, and see, what our sins, did to Christ.
If other offenses are there, communicate them, don’t hide them in your heart or the other person will never know.
You see, truly as the scripture says. The truth, will set you free. Be free. But you have to recognize the lie. You have to admit the truth, you have to see your part in it. Or you will never grow, to the potential, you could have, in Christ.
I am extending a chance right now. I believe God is too, or I would not be writing this. I love how He uses me. He uses my hurts, He uses, my experiences…..For He knows, I will always try to bring Him glory in these matters.
Maybe to “whom it may concern,” will see this. Will grow. Will not let silence be lost. As a chance. But chances do not last forever.
Maybe thats why I would urge, implore anybody. Get right with God, first, repent, admit the lie. Then go to who you lied to, or who you offended. Don’t think, because you may not see evidence, that you fooled someone.
Because what you did, is you hurt yourself. God did see you doing this. Even if they don’t know. Tell them. Grow…..
Such a fine line. Is it worth it? Thats between you and God. Yes it may hurt, you may be denied. This is not a guarantee that things can be restored. But you freed yourself. Isn’t that important? You are responsible, for your own soul. No matter what….We cannot control others, or manipulate them. In truth or a lie.
Because we never know. Time is precious. So are friendships, so are relationships, and family, but lies only destroy. Don’t lose a chance….
Make it right, because you have and know the good of who God is.
That truly is God given, but He won’t honor lies….
I HAVE NOT WRITTEN UNTO YOU BECAUSE YE KNOW NOT THE TRUTH, BUT BECAUSE YE KNOW IT, AND THAT NO LIE IS OF THE TRUTH. I JOHN 2:21 KJV.
Blessings, Elena Ramirez