Why do women hate? Why do they hate men? Why do they hate other women? Why?
Recently, with the controversy about Kavanaugh, I saw and still see so much hate from women.
I see women, make one man, the poster boy for hate. An object of hate.
I saw them saying things like “believe the victim”. And you know, I do believe the victim.
But I don’t believe in making anybody an object of hate. In being an accuser. Or lying.
Or pouring my hurt into someone else, by destroying their character or reputation. We saw that.
I see women knocking other women, yet complaining if they are attacked in the same way. I see women, being very jealous, catty, never seeing the good in other women.
I saw that when I worked in the business world. Men were nice, but women, were very competitive mean, and hard to get a long with.
I have seen that as well from just women in ministry, in the church, and maybe thats why I only consider a couple of women friends, because they don’t play that game. Or at least not displaying it.
I grew up, seeing hate. From my own mama. I could not understand it. But I kind of do understand it now. And God bless my mama, but she was also a victim. The sad thing is she never did overcome it. And I vowed to not be that way. To me that is a curse. I don’t want curses in my life.
So I have sought the Lord in all matters including that. I am not a victim, but I am victorious in Christ, and I will share more later in this. About that.
See, growing up, I was also a victim, of different things, and I won’t go into details. So I could have hated. But sometimes I see, just how dumb I was. How trusting I was. How naive I was. How desperate I was. I don’t like saying that, but I did not have any outlets.
Since, my mother was a hater, yet loved me, she tried to control me. I did not do well with that. I rebelled. And instead of finding my way, I made myself vulnerable to wolves. Men. Evil men. Or men, boys, who could not even figure things out for themselves.
Yes, I could have hated men. I could have even hated my mother. But I did not. Life has not been easy for me, in many ways. Even with having successes. But I don’t hate. I don’t even hate myself. And I can easily say here, many times, I was my worse enemy. But I don’t hate myself.
I could probably write a book about this, and why women hate. But I have also learned, people are not running to go and buy my books. That I have poured my heart into. Already….And thats o.k. I have accepted my situation. If God changes that, well thats different.
But I have known some women in the literary world. Who have connections in publishing. Or even ministries. And they won’t lift one finger to help me. Even women, that say I minister to them, they won’t even share my posts. And some called me friend. Yeah right. Sorry if I sound bitter, but its true, women have not been my friend, in Christ, or a help.
And my motivation has changed sometime ago. I am not writing for money. I am not writing for my glory. I am writing for the glory of God, and you cannot put a price on that.
Yet I see how valuable any wisdom is. And if I can impart something even here, in a small blog post, for a woman, then maybe she can be set free. To be a wise woman. Especially a young woman, looking to find her way.
Let me tell you when my life really changed. When I stopped and I saw, that yes I believed in God. But when I decided to do things His way, in holiness, and not walk the fence between the world and God, I found my way. By repentance. By seeking Holy King James word. By prayer. By seeing the traps the devil tried to put in front of me, with temptation. Even from other men, after I was married. And I saw, I had to run from sin.
Sin will destroy you, blind you. Even in the name of love. Thats why I guess some women hate men, because perhaps a man they loved, burned them. Burned them bad. And they loved that man.
But what I have learned, is that if a man truly loves you. He will honor you. He will wait till marriage. Women, don’t understand that all is not fair in love and war. If you give yourself to a man, he will take what he wants.
Then, what women think and don’t know, they have given the most important part of themselves to the man, and even if he loves you, he looks at you differently, you are no longer a challenge. He will even think about you doing what you did with him, with other men. What a turn off. He defeated you, he disarmed you by taking your sexuality. He may even begin to hate you.
I learned that from different men.
But holiness, in Christ, is your greatest weapon, and will not cause you to hate. For, what I learned from God, is to honor myself, and to repent of sin. I learned, to submit to God. I learned that a good woman, does not hate. She does not blame others. For her own mistakes. She picks herself up, takes a bath, and cleanses herself by repenting seeking God, and loving Gods way.
Which is holy.
Long story short, I have a wonderful husband of over 30 years. We waited till after marriage. To consume our marriage. We did not take what we were not supposed to. We honored God in this. I told my husband before we got married, I wanted to do things Gods way. He listened, he agreed. I know that I know that is my “secret” to true love, and living happily ever after.
I watched myself, did not fall into traps, and well, we have a fruitful marriage in Christ. I don’t blame my past on anybody, and I don’t hate anybody even now.
Hate is ugly. I don’t hate women. And yes there are always more lovelier, more successful then me, even in the body of Christ, but thats o.k. I take what God has taught me, I try to share it and I try to share it in love.
Some can take it or leave it. I don’t really care. To get angry or hateful, or mean about it. Just hurts yourself. And I am not into afflicting myself. Or nobody else. For that matter. It will stop the plans God has for you.
I just learned, probably the hard way. Love never fails. And you don’t want that poison of hate in your soul.
Be careful with these movements, that want to make men equals.
Don’t forget God did create Adam before Eve. Don’t forget, that she was the one that caused Adam to sin, by listening to the devil. Don’t forget, that you don’t listen to the devil. Listen to what God says. Obey Him, obey God, I tell you, it will steer your life in the right direction.
Hope this helps some body.
Blessings, in Christ,